Doyle

PJE: "every fear I had of failure or imperfection was linked back to that one emotion of despair and hopelessness. It was that feeling that I always feared, not the actual consequences of a wrong choice!"

I will track down this fear of the emotion using doyle technique (Speed Trace).

Speed Trace:
Very unresourceful states of helplessness, hopelessness, worthlessness, powerlessness, and self-judgment make good candidates.

I want to track down the state of feeling hopeless while talking to someone.

How to do a Speed Trace
Verbal method only: get the explorer's age. For our example, we'll use an age of 42 years.
Have the explorer access and hold the state. You can anchor it kinesthetically (touch or self anchor). If the state has an eye access, have the explorer fix their eyes on it.
Age-regress from the current age.

Synesthesia method

Have the explorer create a representation in at least two senses of moving backward through time. Do this very rapidly, so they reach the age of conception in a few seconds.

Occasionally the person may need to go far past conception to get the whole doyle. Go to the Stone Age, or to the beginning of the universe if necessary. When the feeling of the doyle disappears completely, they're done. Make sure they got the whole doyle (step 4).

Check by trying to re-access the original state. If some of it remains, anchor that and do another Speed Trace. Strong states may get built by "stacking" several doyles, which you may need to Speed Trace separately.

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Juggler:
Advanced Storytelling
It is pretty easy to tell a good story when the tale is exciting or unusual. To make it to the
next level though, Juggler encourages us to make the most mundane things sound
interesting. You know you are good when you can make doing laundry sound exciting. Try
this exercise. Every day before you go to sleep, write a short story about your day. Just one
paragraph that captures the highlights and try to make it sound interesting. Make each day
of your life into a fascinating tale and share it with others.
Even on your off days when you feel crappy, talk about these feelings in an artful way. In
short, be genuine and at the same time infectious with your wit. Talk to strangers every day for practice and you will see what material works and what doesn't. Ask people how was their day/weekend and it provides an excellent opener for you to weave some story magic!

BE FUCKIN PASSIONATE ABOUT EVERYTHING -> EMOTIONS!

Make statements not questions.

How I feel

Here some important notes from meeting with my girl:

Always lead the conversation to where YOU want to GO!
Start rewarding physically on high points of conversation. Reward even more.
Dominate physically.

Don't think you need to talk, kiss etc. it is nothing. Everything flows naturally if you don't care. ALWAYS BE IN THE MOMENT.

"I like" is a great conversation starter.

Let her plan the date and then reward her for setting everything up.

Talking more is my goal. I can do anything and she'll feel mor comfortable if I just flow. Not necessarily about myself but generally just speak, monologues. I see this in other couples. When the guy is talking she feels free to do anything with him.

Don't think (ever!) about getting something from her. Always show that you have the power and you can give it to her if she is good.

If everything is set up and planned in my head it just flow and everything is natural and effortless. Never TRY to do ANYTHING.

When I touch and she stops all movement, it is because she is feeling me not because she doesn't want it. I do the same when she touches me.

I project states to her. It is always in me. If I am bored, she will be. I must break the state and dominate the situation to change my state. It is most important, how I FEEL.

Anti-slut mechanism

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Bodylanguage 101:

Change physiology to change emotions / frame of mind.

cold read:
"You remind me of me a couple years ago. You're a creative person, but you don't have a creative job."


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I'm trying to physically escalate the relationship. She gives me a hard time on this. This is obviously an anti-slut mechanism. She is terrified that I'll think she's a slut, she's doing it well, however it might become frustrating. I must keep the image of physical relationship in my head at all times.
My method for physical escalation:
- Take it or leave attitude.
- Trust the gut.
- I need to show that I know what I am doing. Move her around and grab her confidently, even if it won't get a good response. Show not that you are desperate and need her body but only that you know that it can happen if she is good enough.
- Be a MAN! Do manly things, do action things, do it YOUR way, ALWAYS.

Visualize to act

First date with the girl went fantastic. I had a really hard time planning the logistics and was very mad. In the end all went great because:
1. I stopped worrying because problems dissapear by themselves
2. Nothing can go wrong if you decide what you want to do.
(Realize that you are the creative force in the world and only if you do not control the situation something might go wrong. You create the universe and if you do something wrong you know how to fix it. Always lead.)
3. I planned every detail of the date by visualizing what will happen, everything was 100% as I wanted it to be.

Being in the moment

10 days ago I went to a club and did nothing.

Now I'm back after a trip and did everything right. This is some time I will remember so I'm not gonna write a lot.
I got my first grind, cuddling, kissing, holding etc. Of course it was nothing once I got it, the whole process was simply a blast. The tactics between me and this girl were incredible. Once we saw each other I knew it was on. I didn't really do anything until she started attracting me. The best way to get the girl is to let her chase you. I implemented Tao of Steve with profound accuracy. It was incredible how this stuff works. The only problem I had was my own psychology.
I discovered the 2 day cycle, which means that one day I am hyper-productive and accomplish my goals and the next day I really do crap and feel needy. PJE has a solution for this and I think I discovered the fix for this on my own. As always neediness is the enemy. I think if you could eliminate neediness there would be no problems in social life whatsoever. As for now it is very important to be in the moment and realize that you are the man and you control this life. From this mind set everything works. When I got a bad day I had to conciouscly refocus on this mindset. How can I have this mindset all the time?
I discovered I am the alpha-male. I can gain rapport with people within minutes or seconds. Everybody loved me. The problem is later on because I don't talk too much. This will be my goal for the next year probably, to become talkative.
I have proved the power of intention. However it is not what I thought it was and what all the self-help gurus talk about. It is exactly how PJE describes it in "Being the body". I imagined the girl that I wanted in a position I wanted her to be. I felt what it is like when she is kissing me. I made the decision, that yes this is what I want. I did this excerice once or twice a day and I got the result.
Also, I am nearly 100% sure that all action comes from learning by seeing others. Especially near, you. So the most important thing in life to do if you want to get girls is surround yourself with guys that get them. The other thing is fix your psychology.

There is a terrible disassociation between expecting something to happen and being in control and knowing what will happen because of you.

Oh and I did my first cold approach on an attractive waitress. It was a mess but I got the guts to do it thanks to all the confidence I got.

All this was done from a learning-frame. I didn't ever have high expectancies. But I doubt this can be a method, maybe the learning-frame is just something that happens in the right time.



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DYD Sex. com.

"How to argue and win everytime"

Demonstrate the power of knowing how to give pleasure. Don't ever try to get sth from her.
Never focus on the needs of the seller. Focus on the needs of the buyer!
Think about what they think of you!

"A person will only do something they've already seen themselves doing their mind FIRST"

Don't try to be liked!

All this happens automatically if you are just in the moment and feel what is happening.