If you're comfortable you can do anything.
These words are more true than anything today. I met with my friends today. I intentionally wanted this event to be fun for me and everyone. And it worked so fine. The whole day I was confident and really comfortable to be me. If you just are and want something positive and know who you are and what best you are capable of, it will work. If I compare this meeting to something a couple months ago than I can say that: I am a new man. It's great to be me.
Next week I am beginning the delayed bootcamp. This will change my life completely. I am ready for it.
Friday, April 28, 2006
Thursday, April 27, 2006
I want
I was training being around attractive women today. It went fairly well. I walked past or looked at them during the day. I made something I never did before, I looked at a girl and then... I started genuinly looking at her because I was interested. And she saw that and it didn't bother me. I didn't do this before. Two things worked: I WANTED to look and the second: I was horny. Yesterday I was horny and I used that energy to visualize how my interaction would be if I were interested in fucking. The same energy was used today for the looking part. I will do this tomorrow too. I must break this down. Eye contact is a must. I must project interest through body language and eye contact. I will do it tomorrow even if it will be frightening. It's Gunwitches method but I don't have an intention of talking right now. If an opprortunity arrises I will speak and then I will use all my knowledge and assets that I've developed to this day, just being my BEST SELF.
I got a great proof how my whole body can give me an energy injection. We were swimming for best time in the pool. And I swam really and I mean really quick. I prepared for the moment and my intention was: I want to swim so fast so to qualify to the university swimming tournament. That intention made me swim so fast that I was practically dead at the end and I couldn't move my legs. I swam quicker than this sports-alpha guy. He felt bad cause of it and I was the winner. My testosterone level rised and I felt great. That gave me confidence in social situations. I really gave a fuck about what people thought and I was in my own world.
One thing I learned from a wierd guy that interrupted me on the street:
He approached me, I didn't see him coming. He asked me a question, I looked shocked at him and then he said "Sorry" and smiled. I instantly thought I want to answer his question as best as I can, as I was thinking he asked the question again and I answered. This is a great technique from a natural. I used it yesterday and works great and is very natural for me too!
Another thing I want to train: frames in interactions with people that are working, shops, clerks etc. Get in a frame and become an actor. Let's see how this works!
I got a great proof how my whole body can give me an energy injection. We were swimming for best time in the pool. And I swam really and I mean really quick. I prepared for the moment and my intention was: I want to swim so fast so to qualify to the university swimming tournament. That intention made me swim so fast that I was practically dead at the end and I couldn't move my legs. I swam quicker than this sports-alpha guy. He felt bad cause of it and I was the winner. My testosterone level rised and I felt great. That gave me confidence in social situations. I really gave a fuck about what people thought and I was in my own world.
One thing I learned from a wierd guy that interrupted me on the street:
He approached me, I didn't see him coming. He asked me a question, I looked shocked at him and then he said "Sorry" and smiled. I instantly thought I want to answer his question as best as I can, as I was thinking he asked the question again and I answered. This is a great technique from a natural. I used it yesterday and works great and is very natural for me too!
Another thing I want to train: frames in interactions with people that are working, shops, clerks etc. Get in a frame and become an actor. Let's see how this works!
Wednesday, April 26, 2006
Warmups
The real purpose of planning is simply so that you remain convinced that a possible path exists.
I will train calibration. Part of it will be to get into situations that cause fear. Not speaking but just being around an attractive girl or girls and looking at them and smiling.
I was training maing a warm-up a habit today. I pretty much did it. 2 out of 3 approaches + 1 guy approached me becuase he wanted something. I'm listening to Wayne Dyer Cd's and I'm feeling really really great. I feel very confident everywhere I go. The only time I get self-consious is around attractive girls. I need to break this fear and jump into it. Not necessarily talk but just silently acknowledge my existence around them andget comfortable with the fear. Speaking will be MUCH easier when I'm not self-consious. I discovered how to maintain talk with a stranger. This isn't anything new I knew about it but I checked it today. First prepare what you want to say and what is the overall goal of your speech then when you approach you must think you WANT TO TALK TO THIS PERSON. Once that is the only thing your consious mind is occupied with the brain comes up with stuff to say. Also I delt with fear by rationalizing it today.
I will train calibration. Part of it will be to get into situations that cause fear. Not speaking but just being around an attractive girl or girls and looking at them and smiling.
I was training maing a warm-up a habit today. I pretty much did it. 2 out of 3 approaches + 1 guy approached me becuase he wanted something. I'm listening to Wayne Dyer Cd's and I'm feeling really really great. I feel very confident everywhere I go. The only time I get self-consious is around attractive girls. I need to break this fear and jump into it. Not necessarily talk but just silently acknowledge my existence around them andget comfortable with the fear. Speaking will be MUCH easier when I'm not self-consious. I discovered how to maintain talk with a stranger. This isn't anything new I knew about it but I checked it today. First prepare what you want to say and what is the overall goal of your speech then when you approach you must think you WANT TO TALK TO THIS PERSON. Once that is the only thing your consious mind is occupied with the brain comes up with stuff to say. Also I delt with fear by rationalizing it today.
Friday, April 21, 2006
Relaxed
Wow long day. I wanted to do 6 approaches I did 4 or 5. I was asking for the time. I didn't do any major breakthroughs because I wanted to do conversations but one thing gives me a lot of confidence. I did approaches with sexually attractive girls and I was totally comfortable. And they catched in the vibe, if I wanted to I could continue the conversation. It's great to know that it is totally comfortable to talk to a stranger for me now. It is not comfortable to carry on a conversation but an opener is.
I met with my friends today. I haven't seen them in a long time. I arranged the meeting. I tested a sales theory about assuming the sale. I gathered everyone just assuming they would come. I talked with everybody the same way as if it was already done and I just tweaked the time and place to meet. It worked great and we had a great time. I was totally in a good mood and I really see the progress in my social development. One thing: I had no fear of talking with my friends, I didn't talk much because I didn't have the material. If something came into my mind I would speak it and I was really comfortable even when I forgot what to say. This is a big thing. So now I see I just need to prepare and remember things to say before a meeting,
The time has come to join the sosuave bootcamp made by Shezzler. I'll join it and start working monday. I'm ready for making the approaches and even for making dates. This is the time.
Johnnie:
Be comfortable with who you are and drive the interaction where you want it to go.
You want the person to be real. So don't smile, approve, change your frame until the person responds with something you find is real for you.
I met with my friends today. I haven't seen them in a long time. I arranged the meeting. I tested a sales theory about assuming the sale. I gathered everyone just assuming they would come. I talked with everybody the same way as if it was already done and I just tweaked the time and place to meet. It worked great and we had a great time. I was totally in a good mood and I really see the progress in my social development. One thing: I had no fear of talking with my friends, I didn't talk much because I didn't have the material. If something came into my mind I would speak it and I was really comfortable even when I forgot what to say. This is a big thing. So now I see I just need to prepare and remember things to say before a meeting,
The time has come to join the sosuave bootcamp made by Shezzler. I'll join it and start working monday. I'm ready for making the approaches and even for making dates. This is the time.
Johnnie:
Be comfortable with who you are and drive the interaction where you want it to go.
You want the person to be real. So don't smile, approve, change your frame until the person responds with something you find is real for you.
Thursday, April 20, 2006
Blue panties
Confidence from the speech doesn't do anything. It gis me confidence for performing in front of groups of people and generally it gives me a knowledge that I'm funny. It's a really good thing. However for street approaches it does nothing. I was really relaxed and peacefull when I got out of home. But then I saw this girl, she had these blue panties outside, so high nearly to her belly. It was there for purpose. I looked at them and then in her eyes and she giggled. Then I pretended I'm not interested and she looked at me and looked back. And eventually I lost it. I knew there was something sexual going on but I got into my routine, my loop, my pattern and it was lost. That made my day and I got downhill from there.
One thing I learned: there is a purpose and hidden purpose. My purpose for today was to go and do 6 approaches. But my underlying purpose was to go read a book and that's all. It was there the entire day in the back of my head. So that was what I did. I must leave no options for my brain. Dedication means dedication.
INTENTON
DEDICATION
PERSONALITY
3 SECOND RULE
I'll apply this tommorrow and also use two mind hacks to get things done called TO-DONE and TIME CONSTRAINT and do the same tommorrow.
One thing I learned: there is a purpose and hidden purpose. My purpose for today was to go and do 6 approaches. But my underlying purpose was to go read a book and that's all. It was there the entire day in the back of my head. So that was what I did. I must leave no options for my brain. Dedication means dedication.
INTENTON
DEDICATION
PERSONALITY
3 SECOND RULE
I'll apply this tommorrow and also use two mind hacks to get things done called TO-DONE and TIME CONSTRAINT and do the same tommorrow.
Wednesday, April 19, 2006
Comedy
I did a presentation in front of my university class today. I did stand-up comedy, George Carlin style. I was anxious as hell but it turned out really great. I haven't done this in a while so I lacked a bit of confidence but the reaction surpassed me. I got so many compliments that I really got the assurance that I needed. My definite strong points are: relaxed body language, different voice tonality and speed, the matching of my rebel look with what I say. It was a bit rebelious speech, really angry George Carlin style. I learned something very, very important which my teacher said to me after the presentation. I would not know this in a million years if he hadn't told me. My look and my humour might be not well recepted by people with higher status. If they don't get that this is just me and I'm not really a threat they will be aggressive towards me. I have the answer to my all-life question: why do some people don't like me at first sight? It turns out these "some people" are people with higher status that lack social calibration and sense of humour. So, how do I overcome this? If someone is higher status, or assumes he is I need to tone down my attitude and humour and just relate to them. The ME can come out later when they like me. I need to slip behind their defences.
I did one approach asking a girl for a bus or something, as part of my talk to one stranger a day program. I think this is becoming a habit at last.
Tomorrow I'll work in dedicated time, not so long, so I'll need to be quick. I will use my new confidence and break out of the comfort zone.
I did one approach asking a girl for a bus or something, as part of my talk to one stranger a day program. I think this is becoming a habit at last.
Tomorrow I'll work in dedicated time, not so long, so I'll need to be quick. I will use my new confidence and break out of the comfort zone.
Calibration
Experiment with this:
TO-DONE.
Imagine, feel and know that a task is already accomplished. Backwards remember the steps to get to the end. Focus your consciousness only on the accomplishment. Now start doing it and leave all to the universe.
Charisma Arts:
Learn to calibrate with strangers.
Notice how you do it with friends, notice other people calibrating and then apply it to strangers.
"Important: if you are "in your head," you won't perceive the delicate nuances of the world around you, and you cannot calibrate to them. Being in your head will assure your lack of calibration with others. Being unguarded and taking in all information around you is a necessary precondition of calibrating."
Experience people's energy.
"My mind goes into gear: should I talk to her? What could I say to capture her attention. Is there a floppsy around (if you don't know this term, read Wayne's book)? It's slightly chilly out, perhaps her legs are cold? No, that's no good: try as I might, I just can't get my focus away from those legs. It occurs to me to just focus on her vibe and see if I could calibrate to her energy. It feels good. I like her energy; I like being suddenly out of the tight confines of my head and fully experiencing the bright autumn day. All of the sudden, she smiles at me and said "Hi!" (yes, with an exclamation point)."
Relate to peoples emotions:
"You've both felt excitement, wonder, boredom, rage, tiredness, humiliation, confidence, anticipation, embarrassment, jealousy, happiness, shyness, euphoria, sadness, lust, contentment, fear, exhilaration, among many more. Chances are, you'll be able to relate to the very first thing someone says that has any emotional content."
"When approaching people, just assume that you already relate to them, because you do."
I want to think about different stories that would help me relate to people. One story for each emotion.
"And if you ever do find yourself unable to relate to someone, simply ask for emotions from them until you find one you can relate to. Two great default questions to always have ready are: 1. "What was that like?" and 2. "How did that make you feel?""
"Whenever you speak, be always answering the above two default questions for the benefit of your listeners."
"A great exercise, if this does not come naturally to you: When you're talking about a subject, try mentioning as few factual details as possible, and focus on talking about your emotional responses to the events, not to the events themselves. This gives others a way to relate to your story, but more importantly, to you."
TO-DONE.
Imagine, feel and know that a task is already accomplished. Backwards remember the steps to get to the end. Focus your consciousness only on the accomplishment. Now start doing it and leave all to the universe.
Charisma Arts:
Learn to calibrate with strangers.
Notice how you do it with friends, notice other people calibrating and then apply it to strangers.
"Important: if you are "in your head," you won't perceive the delicate nuances of the world around you, and you cannot calibrate to them. Being in your head will assure your lack of calibration with others. Being unguarded and taking in all information around you is a necessary precondition of calibrating."
Experience people's energy.
"My mind goes into gear: should I talk to her? What could I say to capture her attention. Is there a floppsy around (if you don't know this term, read Wayne's book)? It's slightly chilly out, perhaps her legs are cold? No, that's no good: try as I might, I just can't get my focus away from those legs. It occurs to me to just focus on her vibe and see if I could calibrate to her energy. It feels good. I like her energy; I like being suddenly out of the tight confines of my head and fully experiencing the bright autumn day. All of the sudden, she smiles at me and said "Hi!" (yes, with an exclamation point)."
Relate to peoples emotions:
"You've both felt excitement, wonder, boredom, rage, tiredness, humiliation, confidence, anticipation, embarrassment, jealousy, happiness, shyness, euphoria, sadness, lust, contentment, fear, exhilaration, among many more. Chances are, you'll be able to relate to the very first thing someone says that has any emotional content."
"When approaching people, just assume that you already relate to them, because you do."
I want to think about different stories that would help me relate to people. One story for each emotion.
"And if you ever do find yourself unable to relate to someone, simply ask for emotions from them until you find one you can relate to. Two great default questions to always have ready are: 1. "What was that like?" and 2. "How did that make you feel?""
"Whenever you speak, be always answering the above two default questions for the benefit of your listeners."
"A great exercise, if this does not come naturally to you: When you're talking about a subject, try mentioning as few factual details as possible, and focus on talking about your emotional responses to the events, not to the events themselves. This gives others a way to relate to your story, but more importantly, to you."
Thursday, April 13, 2006
Broke something!
I had a major breakthrough today. I don't think I realize it but I did something I never ever did in my entire life. If this journal would have one purpose it would be to document what happened before the breakthrough.
So... I was really cool and relaxed today, I was in the present enjoying every bit of reality, people could sense it. I meditated in the morning, also sang and played the guitar. I couldn't speak to people until I got to the pool and talked with my friend. I got in a really talkative mood. I got into it just by stating "I want to talk to my friend". After that I proceeded into my dedicated time to approach strangers. I have to stress that I was really calm and comfortable. The sun was shining and I was walking pass the street. When I saw the bus stop I thought I want to approach someone here. I chickened out on the first girl I saw and then I saw another girl. She looked at me and smiled. I knew it was on. Instead of just walking pass her I stopped, faced her and asked her if some bus was already off. She aswered
and smiled. Then I had a thought that I want to cut this conversation and go. So I did that. There was no fear nothing. I was in the zone, but I have a bad programming and the negative thoughts get me out of the interaction. I want to let my brain know that I want to talk to this person no matter what. The brain didn't do anything wrong really, my intention was that this is a warm-up so, it didn't know it has to continue talking. So OK, I went on. At the next bus stop stood a young blond girl. I instantly approached her from the side. Allocated myself in front of her, turned my head and said "Hey". This was the second breakthrough, I never said that
before. She smiled. She smiled altough she didn't look like a smiley girl before. Then I asked something trivial and she didn't know the answer so I went on. I felt the eyes of people around the bus stop on me. I knew they knew I was trying to hit on her. This may not be true, but it felt... good. I know I am better than them because they just looked at her and I spoke to her. Next I did my backpack routine on a woman which led me to the conclusion that people are finite automatons. Maybe I'll write about this sometime. Then I changed location and went into the bookstore. There I couldn't do anything. Which led me to this conclusion:
Unless there exists a mind hack yet to be discovered by me which can make you do anything against the fear and personality issues I must train everything in the slightest detail. I made the breakthroughs today because I trained talking to people on the street for several weeks now. I started with asking for the time and ending with asking to do me a favour. I can do this easily now, but only on the street. If I want to do it in a different location I must train to do it from the beginning. I need to start from 0 everywhere I go. The whole learning process must take place again in every different place. Also eveytime I go there I must warm-up by doing stuff that I already know how to do and after that apply new stuff that I want to do. This is breaking it down to tiny little pieces. I see no other way around this now. It will be time consuming, it will take a couple of years, but hey... I'm not going anywhere. Also I might find the mind hack earlier...
So my plan is this:
Proceed with learning new social skills on the street.
Start learning from the beginning in mall areas.
If I'm looking for a girl to talk, find the small pearls or young girls so I have authority over them.
So... I was really cool and relaxed today, I was in the present enjoying every bit of reality, people could sense it. I meditated in the morning, also sang and played the guitar. I couldn't speak to people until I got to the pool and talked with my friend. I got in a really talkative mood. I got into it just by stating "I want to talk to my friend". After that I proceeded into my dedicated time to approach strangers. I have to stress that I was really calm and comfortable. The sun was shining and I was walking pass the street. When I saw the bus stop I thought I want to approach someone here. I chickened out on the first girl I saw and then I saw another girl. She looked at me and smiled. I knew it was on. Instead of just walking pass her I stopped, faced her and asked her if some bus was already off. She aswered
and smiled. Then I had a thought that I want to cut this conversation and go. So I did that. There was no fear nothing. I was in the zone, but I have a bad programming and the negative thoughts get me out of the interaction. I want to let my brain know that I want to talk to this person no matter what. The brain didn't do anything wrong really, my intention was that this is a warm-up so, it didn't know it has to continue talking. So OK, I went on. At the next bus stop stood a young blond girl. I instantly approached her from the side. Allocated myself in front of her, turned my head and said "Hey". This was the second breakthrough, I never said that
before. She smiled. She smiled altough she didn't look like a smiley girl before. Then I asked something trivial and she didn't know the answer so I went on. I felt the eyes of people around the bus stop on me. I knew they knew I was trying to hit on her. This may not be true, but it felt... good. I know I am better than them because they just looked at her and I spoke to her. Next I did my backpack routine on a woman which led me to the conclusion that people are finite automatons. Maybe I'll write about this sometime. Then I changed location and went into the bookstore. There I couldn't do anything. Which led me to this conclusion:
Unless there exists a mind hack yet to be discovered by me which can make you do anything against the fear and personality issues I must train everything in the slightest detail. I made the breakthroughs today because I trained talking to people on the street for several weeks now. I started with asking for the time and ending with asking to do me a favour. I can do this easily now, but only on the street. If I want to do it in a different location I must train to do it from the beginning. I need to start from 0 everywhere I go. The whole learning process must take place again in every different place. Also eveytime I go there I must warm-up by doing stuff that I already know how to do and after that apply new stuff that I want to do. This is breaking it down to tiny little pieces. I see no other way around this now. It will be time consuming, it will take a couple of years, but hey... I'm not going anywhere. Also I might find the mind hack earlier...
So my plan is this:
Proceed with learning new social skills on the street.
Start learning from the beginning in mall areas.
If I'm looking for a girl to talk, find the small pearls or young girls so I have authority over them.
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
Intention
I was working in my dedicated time today. I did nothing. I made the strongest intention ever for today. I had a line rehearsed for usage. And I just couldn't do it on anyone. I was trying to do it in a mall. I never really approached anybody in a mall before, that was probably why I couldn't do anything. But later I tried to do a bus stop approach and I failed to do so too. I didn't even believe I could do it.
The thing I learned today most is that something clicks in chicks heads when the sun comes out. Today it was cloudy and then later the sun came out. When it came out I saw girls from everywhere looking at me and smiling. But didn't say nothing to them which really made me angry.
3 weeks in a row I am returning at Wednesday on the same bus and there is always a girl that either I'm in love with or gives me 100% IOI. Today there was this girl but I failed to approach her because there wasn't a big chance to get through the crowd. The logistics kinda failed. The interesting part is that I really felt confident about this and I was feeling that "this is it" and I was really calm and knew that I would approach and talk to this girl. Unfortunately I got out earlier and never found out how I would react to this situation. The #1 reason I am failing
is because I am not warmed up. Style says that every night he starts from zero. He is at the same point as me when it comes to fear. So the thing I have to learn is how to overcome this fear and how to spontaneously do warm-up sets. I'm intending to approach girls tomorrow. I did some EMOFree for the first time in months and a meditation to focus myself on my goal. If I get distracted tomorrow I must focus on my intention and nothing more. Accept the fears and realize that they are irrelevent to the current situation. Proceed with what I want to do. And for gods sake, give some humour to this, I am not perfect and this is really funny stuff what I'm doing. Imagne the worst case scenario and laugh at it.
Decisions.
In order to make my decision about women and dating work I need to apply these rules to it:
1. What do you want?
2. Do whatever it takes to achieve your goal.
3. Realize the up-side and DOWN-SIDE of your goal and accept them.
4. Realize the bad things you get from not doing your goal and remaining in your current patterns which are made because of bad values
5. Do it just because (do it because it is a part of your identity)
The thing I learned today most is that something clicks in chicks heads when the sun comes out. Today it was cloudy and then later the sun came out. When it came out I saw girls from everywhere looking at me and smiling. But didn't say nothing to them which really made me angry.
3 weeks in a row I am returning at Wednesday on the same bus and there is always a girl that either I'm in love with or gives me 100% IOI. Today there was this girl but I failed to approach her because there wasn't a big chance to get through the crowd. The logistics kinda failed. The interesting part is that I really felt confident about this and I was feeling that "this is it" and I was really calm and knew that I would approach and talk to this girl. Unfortunately I got out earlier and never found out how I would react to this situation. The #1 reason I am failing
is because I am not warmed up. Style says that every night he starts from zero. He is at the same point as me when it comes to fear. So the thing I have to learn is how to overcome this fear and how to spontaneously do warm-up sets. I'm intending to approach girls tomorrow. I did some EMOFree for the first time in months and a meditation to focus myself on my goal. If I get distracted tomorrow I must focus on my intention and nothing more. Accept the fears and realize that they are irrelevent to the current situation. Proceed with what I want to do. And for gods sake, give some humour to this, I am not perfect and this is really funny stuff what I'm doing. Imagne the worst case scenario and laugh at it.
Decisions.
In order to make my decision about women and dating work I need to apply these rules to it:
1. What do you want?
2. Do whatever it takes to achieve your goal.
3. Realize the up-side and DOWN-SIDE of your goal and accept them.
4. Realize the bad things you get from not doing your goal and remaining in your current patterns which are made because of bad values
5. Do it just because (do it because it is a part of your identity)
Monday, April 10, 2006
Illumination part II
Confidence must be based on something. There is no such thing as overall confidence. You can be confident about your looks for example. But that is weak for me, it could work, but I don't want to rely on external features. What if I have a ba hair day? I won't be confident. So my confidence must be based on my inner-self. On my ability to adapt to situations. On my creativity, intelligence and ability to perform and be funny. What confidence do I have now? I'm funny.
What I learned from Sean Stephenson:
WHEN YOU'RE COMFORTABLE, YOU CAN DO ANYTHING.
Create the feelings that you want, and everything you are after will come to you.
BE IN THE PRESENT.
It's funny how you know things but only experiencing it can make you realize what it really is.
Sean Stephenson (on Approaching Women DVD) illuminated me on the topic of being in the present moment, it's a terrific feeling. Is this Zen satori? Sure changes your perspective on stuff. I realized that everytime I was breaking out of my comfort zone in social situations I was shutting down all thoughts and just being in the present. I decided to give a try this sort of living for 7 days. Basically what you do is: think of an intention, what you want. It must be a pure thought, words are unnecesary (visualization is good). Then just trust the universe that whatever you thought of will be accomplished and return to the present moment. This is the only time when you are in your head when you are consciously thinking of your intention. That's all the conscousness is for, intention. So being in your head is like 1% of the time. Let's see how it works, this needs training.
I trained my voice today with George Carlin and David DeAngelo. I have great improvisation abilities and my voice is really powerful when I am comfortable.
What I learned from Sean Stephenson:
WHEN YOU'RE COMFORTABLE, YOU CAN DO ANYTHING.
Create the feelings that you want, and everything you are after will come to you.
BE IN THE PRESENT.
It's funny how you know things but only experiencing it can make you realize what it really is.
Sean Stephenson (on Approaching Women DVD) illuminated me on the topic of being in the present moment, it's a terrific feeling. Is this Zen satori? Sure changes your perspective on stuff. I realized that everytime I was breaking out of my comfort zone in social situations I was shutting down all thoughts and just being in the present. I decided to give a try this sort of living for 7 days. Basically what you do is: think of an intention, what you want. It must be a pure thought, words are unnecesary (visualization is good). Then just trust the universe that whatever you thought of will be accomplished and return to the present moment. This is the only time when you are in your head when you are consciously thinking of your intention. That's all the conscousness is for, intention. So being in your head is like 1% of the time. Let's see how it works, this needs training.
I trained my voice today with George Carlin and David DeAngelo. I have great improvisation abilities and my voice is really powerful when I am comfortable.
Sunday, April 09, 2006
Fear is wrong
Realize that the fear is wrong.
Maintain the right mind-frame at all times. You never know when serendipidity will happen and the only way to use it is to take action on it.
I have all day put myself in situations where a woman would come up next to me and I would strike a conversation. I rehearsed the lines and was very confident to use it. The whole day I didn't have a single occasion to use it. This method is very ineffective. I think it is a very powerful way to meet a woman but it must be applied for everyday life not for pick-up. So I have the lines in my head and I will use them through-out my life.
For approaching lots of people I need something else.
I'm going to do Thundercat's bootcamp. He wrote something very good: you must do 3 warm-up sets before you can do the real thing. What I did wrong during the past 2 weeks is that I did only the warm-up sets. Now I'm gonna do it Thundercat style.
I am not perfect. I need to learn everyday.
Maintain the right mind-frame at all times. You never know when serendipidity will happen and the only way to use it is to take action on it.
I have all day put myself in situations where a woman would come up next to me and I would strike a conversation. I rehearsed the lines and was very confident to use it. The whole day I didn't have a single occasion to use it. This method is very ineffective. I think it is a very powerful way to meet a woman but it must be applied for everyday life not for pick-up. So I have the lines in my head and I will use them through-out my life.
For approaching lots of people I need something else.
I'm going to do Thundercat's bootcamp. He wrote something very good: you must do 3 warm-up sets before you can do the real thing. What I did wrong during the past 2 weeks is that I did only the warm-up sets. Now I'm gonna do it Thundercat style.
I am not perfect. I need to learn everyday.
Thursday, April 06, 2006
Fucked up
I was reading in the "the Game" how fucked up Mystery is. I fear that if I will live alone I will have the same emotional problems. It is a tough thing, even the greatest intelligence can't handle emotions. You just have good days and bad days. Of course I developed a method to bring myself back to a good mood but it really is hard work. Are people attracted to you if you have emotional problems? Like you are more human? I should show more emotions. I'm always either Zen-like or happy. It's ok to feel greef or just say that you don't feel high today.
The bottom-line is this: Mystery's view of the world as Survival and Reproduction is true. It is the true view of the world and EVERYTHING falls into that. But. But it doesn't help you live. It causes emotional problems because the theory is logic and emotions aren't logical. That is why faith and spirituality was invented in our brains. This is what helps you go through life. Logic is bad for dealing with emotions.
Today I felt like a squeezed out olive. I was emotionally down. I didn't feel so fucking bad in months, I don't even remember if I ever was? I can snap out of it but still it is haunting me. I did a new opener for people today. It was a question: "Is my backpack open?". I rehearsed it at home. I was determined to use it on the first person I meet when I come out. I spotted a lady (late 20s). I knew this was it. I approached her, did my line and she smiled and looked at my backpack and was all happy. And that blew me off. I didn't know what to do, I was terrified. I used it once more on a guy and it was all cool, again I was astonished how friendly people
are. This was the wierdest thing. I was terrified because I made a totally strange woman smile in 3 seconds. I was terrified with my power. Is this fucked up or what? I didn't speak to any stranger at all for the rest of the day. I spoke to cashier girls and it was really great. They smiled and it was good but I wasn't myself, I mean, I wasn't in a mindframe useful for making something else out of it. Also, I felt down today because of this one cashier girl. I felt the same way as a couple months ago with a pretty girl on a wheelchair. The wheelchair girl had the most beatiful eyes I have seen, I stared at them and she smiled. I then instincitvely turned my head back. I felt awful. Today was the same, but today I saw progress. I smiled to the cashier girl and she smiled back to me. Very beatiful smile but then I cut it off and was a usual customer. It was awkward. I wasn't attracted to her so probably that is why. But I felt bad because someone is attracted to me and I feel bad for not expressing myself. Shit this is too complicated. I must not be a wuss about this stuff.
Tomorrow I will train new lines with stranger and maybe try out Gunwitches method to see if I can switch a different personality if I go into the sexual state.
The bottom-line is this: Mystery's view of the world as Survival and Reproduction is true. It is the true view of the world and EVERYTHING falls into that. But. But it doesn't help you live. It causes emotional problems because the theory is logic and emotions aren't logical. That is why faith and spirituality was invented in our brains. This is what helps you go through life. Logic is bad for dealing with emotions.
Today I felt like a squeezed out olive. I was emotionally down. I didn't feel so fucking bad in months, I don't even remember if I ever was? I can snap out of it but still it is haunting me. I did a new opener for people today. It was a question: "Is my backpack open?". I rehearsed it at home. I was determined to use it on the first person I meet when I come out. I spotted a lady (late 20s). I knew this was it. I approached her, did my line and she smiled and looked at my backpack and was all happy. And that blew me off. I didn't know what to do, I was terrified. I used it once more on a guy and it was all cool, again I was astonished how friendly people
are. This was the wierdest thing. I was terrified because I made a totally strange woman smile in 3 seconds. I was terrified with my power. Is this fucked up or what? I didn't speak to any stranger at all for the rest of the day. I spoke to cashier girls and it was really great. They smiled and it was good but I wasn't myself, I mean, I wasn't in a mindframe useful for making something else out of it. Also, I felt down today because of this one cashier girl. I felt the same way as a couple months ago with a pretty girl on a wheelchair. The wheelchair girl had the most beatiful eyes I have seen, I stared at them and she smiled. I then instincitvely turned my head back. I felt awful. Today was the same, but today I saw progress. I smiled to the cashier girl and she smiled back to me. Very beatiful smile but then I cut it off and was a usual customer. It was awkward. I wasn't attracted to her so probably that is why. But I felt bad because someone is attracted to me and I feel bad for not expressing myself. Shit this is too complicated. I must not be a wuss about this stuff.
Tomorrow I will train new lines with stranger and maybe try out Gunwitches method to see if I can switch a different personality if I go into the sexual state.
Wednesday, April 05, 2006
The truth about fear
What do you do if you know you will have to do something but you fear it?
You prepare yourself for it.
The ultimate answer to what is fear. Fear is an emotion that helps you survive. If you fear approaching women that means you are not prepared. Fear = Incompentence.
In order to minimize the fear you must prepare yourself. For example by memorizing pick-up lines and conversation topics. This is what I must do. Of course it will not go away completely because there is always fear of the unknown and the primordial fear that Mystery talks about.
But when I prepare myself and I know I'm gonna do it. I'll do it.
Today I had a great example of this. I was working in my dedicated time. I only did approaches that I already did, nothing new. I felt really terrible today, really tired. But I went into a guitar shop and played some guitar which I never did before. I just made an intention to do it and it was cool. I didn't make any conversations or statements. I couldn't break through. I felt like a pretty tank that everyone looks at and admires but there is a man inside that can't get outside. This really sucks. This girl in the bus today gave me a really nice smile, it was a perfect situation. I just didn't do anything because suddenly I felt the fear that I will fuck up. The problem is that I come from a high position because I see she is attracted to me and I'm afraid that when I open my mouth I will spoil it.
Well guess what? Of course I will spoil it! That's part of the learning. I might not spoil it if I prepare myself and train for it. Fuck.
OK so now I'm going to prepare myself for tomorrow, I'm going to memorize a conversation line for use with anybody and I will use it tomorrow. Just like a performer or artist. I must have a canned well-trained line that I can use anywhere. It will boost my confidence and I'll know that I can use this in any situation. There will be no excuses after this.
TYLER:
tap tap
give value
don't do reaction seeking
LOWER THE STANDARDS OF WHAT YOU SAY
90-10
4 tools:
1. cold reading
2. story telling
3. role playing
4. misinterpretation
You prepare yourself for it.
The ultimate answer to what is fear. Fear is an emotion that helps you survive. If you fear approaching women that means you are not prepared. Fear = Incompentence.
In order to minimize the fear you must prepare yourself. For example by memorizing pick-up lines and conversation topics. This is what I must do. Of course it will not go away completely because there is always fear of the unknown and the primordial fear that Mystery talks about.
But when I prepare myself and I know I'm gonna do it. I'll do it.
Today I had a great example of this. I was working in my dedicated time. I only did approaches that I already did, nothing new. I felt really terrible today, really tired. But I went into a guitar shop and played some guitar which I never did before. I just made an intention to do it and it was cool. I didn't make any conversations or statements. I couldn't break through. I felt like a pretty tank that everyone looks at and admires but there is a man inside that can't get outside. This really sucks. This girl in the bus today gave me a really nice smile, it was a perfect situation. I just didn't do anything because suddenly I felt the fear that I will fuck up. The problem is that I come from a high position because I see she is attracted to me and I'm afraid that when I open my mouth I will spoil it.
Well guess what? Of course I will spoil it! That's part of the learning. I might not spoil it if I prepare myself and train for it. Fuck.
OK so now I'm going to prepare myself for tomorrow, I'm going to memorize a conversation line for use with anybody and I will use it tomorrow. Just like a performer or artist. I must have a canned well-trained line that I can use anywhere. It will boost my confidence and I'll know that I can use this in any situation. There will be no excuses after this.
TYLER:
tap tap
give value
don't do reaction seeking
LOWER THE STANDARDS OF WHAT YOU SAY
90-10
4 tools:
1. cold reading
2. story telling
3. role playing
4. misinterpretation
Monday, April 03, 2006
Shine on
Juggler:
Say I WANT instead of I NEED. Basically I want to memorize the whole chapter about being alpha from Juggler.
Do not try to be funny, be creative and funny will find you.
Don't try to make people laugh, try to show people a different perspective.
I want to be motivated. So I'm cutting off masturbation. Also all "romantic" stuff like movies and music that are fillers for lonelyness. Also I'm not focusing on any particular girl, I'm improving my skills.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
-Marianne Williamson
Say I WANT instead of I NEED. Basically I want to memorize the whole chapter about being alpha from Juggler.
Do not try to be funny, be creative and funny will find you.
Don't try to make people laugh, try to show people a different perspective.
I want to be motivated. So I'm cutting off masturbation. Also all "romantic" stuff like movies and music that are fillers for lonelyness. Also I'm not focusing on any particular girl, I'm improving my skills.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
-Marianne Williamson
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