Shy Breaker 2

I was trying to get the "Are you single?" line used today to break my psychological barrier. After a few hours in the field I didn't do anything. Although I really hyped myself up and felt very confident the whole day I failed. In the morning I greeted and delivered jokes to girls that I know but didn't really talk to before. I felt like a kid doing it but it wasn't because jokes are childish. I have to know my purpose when delivering jokes to girls and it will be fine. Realizing after the joke that I wanted to create attraction is wrong, realize first.
The previous day ended with positive visualizing hypnosis and the album "Oceanic". In the morning and through out the day I was constantly motivating myself. The power of the mind is enormous. I am really good at this now. In a few minutes I can completely change my attitude with techniques like reframing, affirmations, praying (this was a new one I should write about it later). I've come up with a really good motivation line and shy-breaker (more below). After some hours and spending time at the pool and having fun with friends I really got into a happy state. I felt extremely confident. I made a cashier girl smile twice. This is really big, because I did something that I wanted always to happen. And it was a girl I really catched an eye for. I felt NO awkwardness or nervousness. Notice that I'm not writing nearly anything negative. Think positive.

Now for the shy-breaker. I've come up with two shyness eliminators within two days. Either it is a coincidence, the affect of the shy-and-free website, or/and something is changing inside my brain (I got to have more sleep so it settles in for good).
This tip is something that came from Simon "the fag", from the movie "As good as it gets". It wasn't exactly this, but it was a good motivation line for Jack Nicholson's character to go talk to Carol "the waitress". The thing is you have to give yourself permission to make a fool out of yourself. You must take the chance and accept that you will get humiliated. It's the same principle as from shy-and-free - can you go up to a girl and make the most awkward conversation ever? Sure you can so do it!

" SIMON
You know who you want. I'll take
your seat any day. So do
something... don't sleep on it...
go over there. I don't think
anybody should ever sleep on
anything -- it's not always good
to let things calm down.

MELVIN
Hey... I'm charged here. But she
might kill me for showing up this
late.

SIMON
Then get in your jammies and I'll
read you a story... I think you've
got a chance. The only real enemy
you have is her ability to think
logically -- the best thing you
have going for you is your
willingness to humiliate yourself
if it gives you one chance in
whatever -- so go catch her off-
guard.

MELVIN
Okay. Thanks a lot. Here I go.
"

This gave me a real confidence boost. I was able to maintain eye-contact with smirks and have fun with it. I should use it to approach a girl also though. So the thing to do is:
0. Let's say I have a goal to deliver a pick-up line to a girl. I don't care about the outcome I'm just learning.
1. I think of what and how I am going to say it. I mentally rehearse it.
2. I give myself permission to humiliate myself. I realize that nothing bad will happen when this occurs.
3. I stop thinking and go out in the field. This is the time for auto-pilot, I trust my instinct, intuition and unconscience. If I spot a girl and I get a gut-level feeling "this is it", the only conscience thought is "OK, this is it, I know I will do it". I move my legs, I move my lips, I move my hips. The rest is history.

I'm still trying to break the barrier and approach a girl with sexual intentions. Maybe I should make a step back and use "Hi's"?. Or try this new line:
"Excuse me, are you the kind of person I should get to know better?"

Tip: I saw a girl today that was picking music CD's in the genre that I like. She was cute and I felt like she was cruising around me to catch my attention. Of course I didn't do anything, I didn't even look at her. Where did I go wrong?
I was thinking.
In a split of a second I made assumptions about her, I transmitted feelings about people I know on to her and I was thinking "wow this is a really great girl". But you know what? I knew shit about her. The only way to find out what she is like is to talk to her. Because I was assuming that she is "so great" I didn't want to approach her because I thought she is too genuine and unique to do so. I felt really low status, I forgot about the higher-status frame, but worst of all I was thinking. It was all in my head. Again, I have to get out of my mind.