From shy guy to don juan. Daily experiences.
"The secret of happiness is freedom. And the secret of freedom is courage."

Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Theory

I've been sick for the last couple of days so I can just learn new stuff by reading and listening. Here are my thoughts:

You really have to learn to say WHATEVER is on your mind. That is the msot important thing ever. DO not think about what the reactions will be from your words. Just voice your goddamn opinion.

David D. Patty Contenta Interview:
Watch your body language. Stand firmly on the ground. Alignment is important. Imagine there is a string on your chest and lift it, everything falls into place after that. Make your hips lead, it works in dancing, it works everyday.

Lover archetypes:
I've come up with three archetypes that woman fantasize about. I'm sure there are more, but recently these are the ones I thought about. These archetypes can be combined, some woman might want a mixture of these.
- The untamed bad boy/warrior.
Woman ho are fascinated by this archetype enjoy movies like: "Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon" (Dark Cloud), "The Assignment" (Carlos).
- The poet/artist.
Movies: "Moulin rouge" (Christian)
- The mild guardian.
Movies: "The proffesional" (Jean Reno, is basically like this).
Throughout life women that want the second archetype seem to be most attracted to me. Also from the third, but that is something I need to work on more. As for the first one, that is what I want to be. I've got to find ways to improve this.

Tip:
Behave like you find all women attractive and that all women find you attractive. Because a woman doesn’t think for herself (remember that society is the book of women) she will only find you of value if she thinks other women find you to be of
value.

Good opinion opener and something to really think about:
Would money have any value in the world, if there weren't no women?

"
MRS ALLONBY: He should never run down other pretty women. That would show he had no taste, or make one suspect that he had too much. No; he should be nice about them all, but say that somehow they don’t attract him.
LADY STUTFIELD: Yes, that is always very, very pleasant to hear about other women.
"
That is what my grandfather always does. My grandma was a very pretty HB in her time.

Tip: Good frame to be in when talking to a girl: she is shy or intimidated by you. Not only can this frame help you talk but is probably true. Especially if you are good-looking. The most beatiful women are also the most insecure.

When you're looking you don't see.

David D. Alex Interview:
Fear motivates you. Everyone feels it but the cool guys enjoy it. I like fear and overcoming it too. But sometimes I have a feeling that it is something else that is stopping me from meeting women. Probably different kinds of fears, like EMOFree suggests.
"Be yourself". Are you the guy that does anything a woman asks for or are you the guy that ignores his mom when she asks you a favour? Think about who you really are and what works best in relationships with people. People love each other for their
flaws not for their perfection.
Make decisions! (Lead with your hips and with your voice)
If you say "I don't know", say after that "I don't care about it".
You are the selector. It seems that the fun frame works best for master PUA's. It tells the woman that you are just here for fun and you can leave any minute. That is exciting.
"If YOU take off a woman's pants, she feels sexy... but if she has to take off HER OWN pants, she feels like a slut".
Alex doesn't ask girls out. He talks about fun stuff he is doing and waits, even for a couple calls, for the woman to ask him out. He ends the talk with "I'll talk to you later", not "Call me later". He doesn't give away his POWER.
Tell a woman what she has to wear when going out with you.