I was happy all day after the hypnosis, don't know if really confident but I didn't feel no shyness. This is fun, I'm going to make hypnosis sessions all week if I can. Today also of course.
Interview technique: When someone asks you a question answer what you want to communicate to them, not what they asked for.
Tuesday, March 07, 2006
Monday, March 06, 2006
Hypnotize
If you start analyzing stuff too much it is a sign that you are doing something wrong. The over-analyzing is part of this. Over-analyzing and thoughts that can't get out of your head are caused by little stimuli of the brain. If you don't meet much people everyday you'll analyze and overthink every little bit of encounter. This is very bad because you get stuck in your head. Go out and recieve more mental stimuli, if it is not possible, fool your brain by watching a movie. You can also get outside of your head by focusing on the body and spiritual parts of you. So, go jog, or listen to music or hipnotyze yourself. Btw. I'm gonna hypnotize myself tonight.
Sunday, March 05, 2006
Conversation
Socializing is an unconscious process due to the fact that 97% of our communication is non-verbal. It doesn't matter what you say but how. The self-consciousness is the main enemy in socializing. It is the root of shyness. If you don't think about yourself you are not shy. Consciousness is to be used only to make decisions. It is to make an intention of doing something. It isn't there to think about what to say, what to do. It is just there to control the sub-conscious so it doesn't project everything in your brain at once. It is like time (Woody Allen quote: "time is God's way of making sure everything doesn't happen at once). It is there to order things to do.So trying to consciously think about what to say is an error in thinking. Self-consciousness is there to limit your possibilities. DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT, MAKE A COMMITMENT TO DO IT NO MATTER WHAT. The rest is left to the sub-consiousness and if you let it go, in a short time you will connect with the super-conscience and it will be the best conversation ever.
Pattern Interrupt: I know what to do instead of the pattern but I still need to do a distinct interruption. I decided to use this sentence from the movie Starship Troopers spoken by Michael Ironside "YOU WANNA LIVE FOREVER!!!?".
Visualize and imagine several times a day your ideal-self. Step into that visualization. See through its eyes.
I remembered this while SMSing with a girl today. Always fo the OPPOSITE of what a woman tells you to do. Always TRUST YOUR GUT.
Pattern Interrupt: I know what to do instead of the pattern but I still need to do a distinct interruption. I decided to use this sentence from the movie Starship Troopers spoken by Michael Ironside "YOU WANNA LIVE FOREVER!!!?".
Visualize and imagine several times a day your ideal-self. Step into that visualization. See through its eyes.
I remembered this while SMSing with a girl today. Always fo the OPPOSITE of what a woman tells you to do. Always TRUST YOUR GUT.
Friday, March 03, 2006
Intention
An excercise for increasing your masculine energy from Ross Jeffries works. I use it various situations and I always regain and maintain high energy.
I had this vibe with a cashier today. I liked her and I didn't freak out. She was nervous, great feeling. Although there are problems that I need to deal with:
1. I have no intention of continuing the talk
2. I think that I'm bothering people
3. I have little motivation for talking to people I don't care about
They are closely related and I need to deal with them.
Number 1 is due to years of bad programming. I tend to escape the conversation. I think of ways to end it instead of ways to extend it. After I end it millions of things come in to my head, brilliant things. They come to my head because I want to talk more, because I regret that I finished talking. I need to think about extending the conversation at real-time, know that I'm going to regret if I finish too early or I don't make an emotional impact. I've dealt with this with friends, so there will be no problem with dealing with it with strangers. I just need to make a conscious intention and never fall into the escape route.
Number 2 is a really bad belief. I can deal with it with the 3 second rule, I'll also try to make a belief-change technique on it so that it never enters my mind.
Number 3 is also a bad belief. I think I don't fully understand the importance of speaking to everybody I meet because I forget how great it is. Try to talk to everybody, challenge yourself to do it. Think that you want to fuck/kiss/touch/make laugh/laugh at this girl instead of "starting conversation".
I had this vibe with a cashier today. I liked her and I didn't freak out. She was nervous, great feeling. Although there are problems that I need to deal with:
1. I have no intention of continuing the talk
2. I think that I'm bothering people
3. I have little motivation for talking to people I don't care about
They are closely related and I need to deal with them.
Number 1 is due to years of bad programming. I tend to escape the conversation. I think of ways to end it instead of ways to extend it. After I end it millions of things come in to my head, brilliant things. They come to my head because I want to talk more, because I regret that I finished talking. I need to think about extending the conversation at real-time, know that I'm going to regret if I finish too early or I don't make an emotional impact. I've dealt with this with friends, so there will be no problem with dealing with it with strangers. I just need to make a conscious intention and never fall into the escape route.
Number 2 is a really bad belief. I can deal with it with the 3 second rule, I'll also try to make a belief-change technique on it so that it never enters my mind.
Number 3 is also a bad belief. I think I don't fully understand the importance of speaking to everybody I meet because I forget how great it is. Try to talk to everybody, challenge yourself to do it. Think that you want to fuck/kiss/touch/make laugh/laugh at this girl instead of "starting conversation".
Thursday, March 02, 2006
What I like
I had problems with relating and doing follow-up stories to someones because I was struggling to remember a story of mine. Well if it didn't work it is time to change the tactic. It much better fits my personality to say what:
a) what is important for me
b) what I like
c) I look forward to
d) I find this interesting or funny
This gives me a ton of stuff to talk about because I am more a creative person then one that has memory for stories.
I spoke to a woman in a bus sitting next to me when there was a good moment. I didn't think about it just did it. I realized afterwards that I could make an emotional impact on her easily. But then I realized that I didn't want to. I will talk more and stuff to talk about will come to my head easily if I have the intention. So the next time I will make an intention of making a longer conversation and making an emotional impact on anyone.
I was staring at this girl and she looked at me and did a cross sign with her hands. I thought why is she praying to me, well it's obvious but... and then I realized there is a church behind me.
The following applies to girls that mean something to me, or that I think would mean to me, that I care about. I don't want to be embarassed by showing her that I'm interested in her. I also don't want her to be embarassed by the situation. This comes from me thinking that I am not worthy her. This is bullshit in my head. There is nothing wrong with showing your interest as long as it makes sense (Johnny from Charisma Sciences). So don't worship her unless there is something great about her. If you don't know her there is no need to be embarassed because she might not be good for you. Always approach with curiosity and I am the prize mind frame, it will work on so many levels without having to analyze stuff like embarassment etc...
Tip: double gaze. Look at someone then turn away, then look back fast as if you know him/her.
a) what is important for me
b) what I like
c) I look forward to
d) I find this interesting or funny
This gives me a ton of stuff to talk about because I am more a creative person then one that has memory for stories.
I spoke to a woman in a bus sitting next to me when there was a good moment. I didn't think about it just did it. I realized afterwards that I could make an emotional impact on her easily. But then I realized that I didn't want to. I will talk more and stuff to talk about will come to my head easily if I have the intention. So the next time I will make an intention of making a longer conversation and making an emotional impact on anyone.
I was staring at this girl and she looked at me and did a cross sign with her hands. I thought why is she praying to me, well it's obvious but... and then I realized there is a church behind me.
The following applies to girls that mean something to me, or that I think would mean to me, that I care about. I don't want to be embarassed by showing her that I'm interested in her. I also don't want her to be embarassed by the situation. This comes from me thinking that I am not worthy her. This is bullshit in my head. There is nothing wrong with showing your interest as long as it makes sense (Johnny from Charisma Sciences). So don't worship her unless there is something great about her. If you don't know her there is no need to be embarassed because she might not be good for you. Always approach with curiosity and I am the prize mind frame, it will work on so many levels without having to analyze stuff like embarassment etc...
Tip: double gaze. Look at someone then turn away, then look back fast as if you know him/her.
Monday, February 27, 2006
Authoritah
DON'T DO OR THINK ANYTHING THAT CAUSES NEGATIVE EMOTIONS.
If I master this, I will become individuated. I will achieve my life goal.
I got some kino from a girl friend today. All I had to do is make fun of another guy in the right moment when she noticed the same thing as I. This probably means something for a girl, like a deep connection.
I've got to nail down the sexual look. I need to maintain eye contact and make it obvious that I'm interested. I don't need to talk to them now I can just run away afterwards. If anything happens I've got my 3 openers and conversation topics ready.
So, tomorrow every girl I find attractive and that isn't or won't be related to me in any way in the future I make eye contact to create tension.
When thinking of witty openers, thinking in a frame might help. Like think what advice you can give or play a character, like an authority. When a girl sits down next to you in a bus say: "That's my reserved seat!".
If I master this, I will become individuated. I will achieve my life goal.
I got some kino from a girl friend today. All I had to do is make fun of another guy in the right moment when she noticed the same thing as I. This probably means something for a girl, like a deep connection.
I've got to nail down the sexual look. I need to maintain eye contact and make it obvious that I'm interested. I don't need to talk to them now I can just run away afterwards. If anything happens I've got my 3 openers and conversation topics ready.
So, tomorrow every girl I find attractive and that isn't or won't be related to me in any way in the future I make eye contact to create tension.
When thinking of witty openers, thinking in a frame might help. Like think what advice you can give or play a character, like an authority. When a girl sits down next to you in a bus say: "That's my reserved seat!".
Kill the bunny
You've got these claws and you're telling that you don't know how to kill the bunny?
I used to, in the past, when telling something watch how people react and get really nervous about it. Fuck that shit. I should use the skills that I have for reading peoples emotions and make a mental note of it but carry on with telling the story with a give a shit attitude. My story is most important, also not the story itself but the delivery.
I used to, in the past, when telling something watch how people react and get really nervous about it. Fuck that shit. I should use the skills that I have for reading peoples emotions and make a mental note of it but carry on with telling the story with a give a shit attitude. My story is most important, also not the story itself but the delivery.
Sunday, February 26, 2006
Mystery Method
Talk 2 times slower.
Mystery Method:
Focus On The Many - if you screw up, fix it with the next girl.
We constantly struggle to control our emotions: empower yourself to get into a TALKATIVE MOOD. That's the KEY EMOTION. Conveying Personality: you must be in the MOOD to CONVEY.
"Your body and your mind (these are not two separate things as your brain is a part of your body) ."
Your emotions help you. If they are there it means you need something. Lonely? Good. build a plan. "Can you imagine the MOTIVATION you would have to get laid? Your body would make you go out every DAY and try to get some."
"Humans too are not designed to live in a lonesome environment."
The Proximity Alert System. "While you can never be 100% certain, her repeated proximity should indicate a potential interest. She may be putting herself near you on purpose hoping that you might start something."
Alcohol does NOT loosen you up.
Work the room. Never sit and do nothing. Always talk to somebody.
SECRET = BE TALKATIVE - make them listen to whatever YOU have to say. Just go from one story straight into another one like a comedian does.
"get a microcassette player and tape ALL your approaches. Its also good because an approach is very formatted: it has a beginning AND an ending. So does a tape. So when you see the girl, you think "I want HER." You scan the situation and say, "OK, here goes" and you press record. And in you go. When it is over, you press stop. Its so perfect for your brain. "
DO NOT get eye contact and not approach and think you will use that eye contact later to approach her.
When you spot an attractive woman, your emotional state changes. You become AWARE. If you could CONTROL AWARE and LONELY you would become MASTER. For now HIDE it.
Mystery didn't have his first kiss until he was 21. He decided he must master this area of life for lifetime.
You MUST initiate immediately, when you get on a bus and there is a babe, sit near and immediately initiate the chat.
"Each phase may FEEL awkward but it looks normal. When a comedian finishes one topic and just goes into an entirely new unrelated topic, the audience doesn't care as long as the next topic is entertaining."
How to prepare yourself:
"First, find 3 openers and memorize them. Write down a list of openers (just the headings of each opener to remind you). Next, write down some routines (the question game, the music game, the photo routine, the bear in the woods story, etc - all on www.dejanews.com) and then also memorize the kiss close and the # close. Memorize 3 NEGs too and you are good to go. With the material in your mind, you are prepared to work it in the field until you have the timing of the material down (again, just like a comedian.)"
Mystery Method:
Focus On The Many - if you screw up, fix it with the next girl.
We constantly struggle to control our emotions: empower yourself to get into a TALKATIVE MOOD. That's the KEY EMOTION. Conveying Personality: you must be in the MOOD to CONVEY.
"Your body and your mind (these are not two separate things as your brain is a part of your body) ."
Your emotions help you. If they are there it means you need something. Lonely? Good. build a plan. "Can you imagine the MOTIVATION you would have to get laid? Your body would make you go out every DAY and try to get some."
"Humans too are not designed to live in a lonesome environment."
The Proximity Alert System. "While you can never be 100% certain, her repeated proximity should indicate a potential interest. She may be putting herself near you on purpose hoping that you might start something."
Alcohol does NOT loosen you up.
Work the room. Never sit and do nothing. Always talk to somebody.
SECRET = BE TALKATIVE - make them listen to whatever YOU have to say. Just go from one story straight into another one like a comedian does.
"get a microcassette player and tape ALL your approaches. Its also good because an approach is very formatted: it has a beginning AND an ending. So does a tape. So when you see the girl, you think "I want HER." You scan the situation and say, "OK, here goes" and you press record. And in you go. When it is over, you press stop. Its so perfect for your brain. "
DO NOT get eye contact and not approach and think you will use that eye contact later to approach her.
When you spot an attractive woman, your emotional state changes. You become AWARE. If you could CONTROL AWARE and LONELY you would become MASTER. For now HIDE it.
Mystery didn't have his first kiss until he was 21. He decided he must master this area of life for lifetime.
You MUST initiate immediately, when you get on a bus and there is a babe, sit near and immediately initiate the chat.
"Each phase may FEEL awkward but it looks normal. When a comedian finishes one topic and just goes into an entirely new unrelated topic, the audience doesn't care as long as the next topic is entertaining."
How to prepare yourself:
"First, find 3 openers and memorize them. Write down a list of openers (just the headings of each opener to remind you). Next, write down some routines (the question game, the music game, the photo routine, the bear in the woods story, etc - all on www.dejanews.com) and then also memorize the kiss close and the # close. Memorize 3 NEGs too and you are good to go. With the material in your mind, you are prepared to work it in the field until you have the timing of the material down (again, just like a comedian.)"
Saturday, February 25, 2006
Rush
Think of what you can give, not what you can get.
Interview with Craig:
Always make an emotional impact on people. It doesn't matter if it is good or bad. If it is bad you will make them want you to want to like them, which is great. They must earn it. All alpha-males don't focus on you right away, if you ask them a question they will do whatever they are doing and they will have to repeat.
It's all a status game. When making a handshake establish dominance. Look right in the eyes and then turn around and get laid back.
I forget to read the paper with my daily tasks. I must bring it to attention atleast a couple times a day.
False belief: that I am bad at conversations.
-> Guess what? I am a great conversationalist! That is why I made many friends and that is why people like me. Not because I acted like a approval seeking pussy around them but because they have fun talking to me!
I expand my conversation circle every day after I made a commitment to do it. It's going OK, just keep progressing.
Getting selfconscious is just a mind-frame. I got in the trap today. If you want to go into the selfconscious frame just catch yourself doing it and reframe it to fun or open person or I give a fuck frame.
I sat across this beatifully eyed girl in the bus today. I was terrified to look her deep in the eyes. Just the usual pretending I'm not interested. I was really scared about this and I got an adrenaline rush from it. It really felt great and I felt this emotional bond with her because I was trying to look at her. Really strange stuff. The good thing out of this experience is that, this fear is really fun, it's a rush. This what I'm really seeking in girls, I want adrenaline from them!
Interview with Craig:
Always make an emotional impact on people. It doesn't matter if it is good or bad. If it is bad you will make them want you to want to like them, which is great. They must earn it. All alpha-males don't focus on you right away, if you ask them a question they will do whatever they are doing and they will have to repeat.
It's all a status game. When making a handshake establish dominance. Look right in the eyes and then turn around and get laid back.
I forget to read the paper with my daily tasks. I must bring it to attention atleast a couple times a day.
False belief: that I am bad at conversations.
-> Guess what? I am a great conversationalist! That is why I made many friends and that is why people like me. Not because I acted like a approval seeking pussy around them but because they have fun talking to me!
I expand my conversation circle every day after I made a commitment to do it. It's going OK, just keep progressing.
Getting selfconscious is just a mind-frame. I got in the trap today. If you want to go into the selfconscious frame just catch yourself doing it and reframe it to fun or open person or I give a fuck frame.
I sat across this beatifully eyed girl in the bus today. I was terrified to look her deep in the eyes. Just the usual pretending I'm not interested. I was really scared about this and I got an adrenaline rush from it. It really felt great and I felt this emotional bond with her because I was trying to look at her. Really strange stuff. The good thing out of this experience is that, this fear is really fun, it's a rush. This what I'm really seeking in girls, I want adrenaline from them!
Thursday, February 23, 2006
Trust the gut
Opening doors for girls is good. They talk to you first (thank you). But I must respond, it's so simple.
Wayne Dyer: Always visualize positively. Negative thoughts are causes of negative emotions. Create high energy by thoughts. It really works, I can nearly touch this energy that is sparking between me and people I noticed today.
Don't lie. Lying creates negative or neutral feedback in your muscles. Only true intention creates positive energy.
Trust your gut: this seems more and more a universal rule. Today I was considering to say something and I consciously felt my gut to see if this is the moment and it said yes and I did it and it worked great!
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Today I was testing eye contact - If a girl looks down = she likes you. I had some fun with this. It gets you in the perfect mind frame.
Wayne Dyer: Always visualize positively. Negative thoughts are causes of negative emotions. Create high energy by thoughts. It really works, I can nearly touch this energy that is sparking between me and people I noticed today.
Don't lie. Lying creates negative or neutral feedback in your muscles. Only true intention creates positive energy.
Trust your gut: this seems more and more a universal rule. Today I was considering to say something and I consciously felt my gut to see if this is the moment and it said yes and I did it and it worked great!
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Today I was testing eye contact - If a girl looks down = she likes you. I had some fun with this. It gets you in the perfect mind frame.
Wednesday, February 22, 2006
High energy
I have very high energy around me. It seems to affect everyone around me. The key is as Wayne Dyer teaches: positive thoughts attract good things in life. It's a concept of Jungs - 'synchronicity'. Nobody knows how this works, but it is there, just trust it and higher energy levels will come naturally to you.
I was cocky and funny with a girlfriend today. Maybe too cocky, it didn't seem to matter for her, she likes me anyway, also it seemed to impress my guyfriends which was amusing.
I can't get myself to cold approach, I can't see the perfect opportunity. This is a terrible mistake. I think I need to find a perfect opener or conversation topic. I keep thinking I don't have anything to say. I must get rid of this state because it is bullshit. I have decided that I must train approaching, conversations will come later. I won't have a conversation if I don't approach. So I will find an opener that will suit me and use it until I get comfortable with it. That is my only focus, to deliver it. Nothing else.
I was cocky and funny with a girlfriend today. Maybe too cocky, it didn't seem to matter for her, she likes me anyway, also it seemed to impress my guyfriends which was amusing.
I can't get myself to cold approach, I can't see the perfect opportunity. This is a terrible mistake. I think I need to find a perfect opener or conversation topic. I keep thinking I don't have anything to say. I must get rid of this state because it is bullshit. I have decided that I must train approaching, conversations will come later. I won't have a conversation if I don't approach. So I will find an opener that will suit me and use it until I get comfortable with it. That is my only focus, to deliver it. Nothing else.
Monday, February 20, 2006
Default to action
Craig's 4 laws:
I If you believe it will work it will work.
II You must be cooler than her and she must know it.
III You must create emotion
Get yourself in the mood - get out of your head by talking to people.
Always remain higher status. The best way to achieve it is humour.
I'm back at the university. Today I was getting used to social situations again. It wasn't hard and I definitally don't get conscious about myself a lot like I used to. I must use my time that I'm spending there. When I'm with my friends I want to
try to lead them not only by being the authority but socially, being the most fun, creative, talkative. I will train statements with them. Also I want to initiate conversations and interactions with people I know but I don't talk to. Use all
people around you to train.
I'm starting to use words like "I will", "I want to" in this journal instead of "I must". We'll see if the power of commitment works.
New shy pattern: I think whether or not do something > I think that one of the options will raise my anxiety > I don't do it, I think I'm shy.
How to break from this pattern? Something I forgot about: SET DEFAULT TO ACTION. Don't think about it.
I If you believe it will work it will work.
II You must be cooler than her and she must know it.
III You must create emotion
Get yourself in the mood - get out of your head by talking to people.
Always remain higher status. The best way to achieve it is humour.
I'm back at the university. Today I was getting used to social situations again. It wasn't hard and I definitally don't get conscious about myself a lot like I used to. I must use my time that I'm spending there. When I'm with my friends I want to
try to lead them not only by being the authority but socially, being the most fun, creative, talkative. I will train statements with them. Also I want to initiate conversations and interactions with people I know but I don't talk to. Use all
people around you to train.
I'm starting to use words like "I will", "I want to" in this journal instead of "I must". We'll see if the power of commitment works.
New shy pattern: I think whether or not do something > I think that one of the options will raise my anxiety > I don't do it, I think I'm shy.
How to break from this pattern? Something I forgot about: SET DEFAULT TO ACTION. Don't think about it.
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