I'm writing in the context of people doing stuff for me ->
Stuff that worked I labelled as "I don't why?" or "Lucky". In fact it is how
the world works. So stop acting like the world SHOULD work and research how
it really works and apply what worked. A big part of this is not caring about
the outcome or work at all.
The 3 second rule i the only method for overcoming fear. So said MYSTERY
himself!
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Effort or tyredness is really a feeling of I want to do this more, or I must.
So, fear is a feeling of I want to do this.
THERE IS NO OPTION, I MUST APPROACH GIRLS CONSTANTLY
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Comment for dirtsimple.org:
Now how does the concept of "just doing it" work in the context of subnets?
I mean I've realized something today while trying to do something I want:
it's YOU that is making your decisions, but "you" is the sum of all your
decisions in your life time.
Let's say at some point in life you did something and that caused you an
awful lot of pain. So you make a decision "I won't do this again no matter
what!". And a strong decision like that is like locking yourself in a room
and throwing out the key. Later in life if you want to do that thing again
you just can't because you can't override that initial decision, no matter
what! Nothing can change it, that was YOUR decision!
So how do you just do it then? Or do you have to refactor yourself in a
situation like that?
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I've been going out in the last two days, working 4-6 hours to get the
opinion opener working. I can't do it, but I have some insight. The last
night I was meditating on my new intention of being a man and doing
approaches. I'm gonna continue doing this. I will also make a session of
refactoring today, I found a new thing, a thing that was really holding me
back. I am really concerned about peoples reaction. I drank coffee today and
I was really high. That made me approach people and ask for time or
directions. I felt that I was doing it just because I was high. I got a bad
response and that made me realize that that was the reason I was holding
myself back. So I need to refactor it or use drugs to overcome it
(refactoring is better of course).
I tried 2 techniques that didn't work.
- Totally dissasociating and watching yourself do things.
Unfortunately yourself doesn't do anything if you don't make the decision
- Distracting you by not watching your target
Again, nothing is gonna happen if you don't make the decision
I realized that all the techniques (like visualizing the result) work only if there was a decision to do it. They really worked because there was a decision to go for it. It's not them that made the act. So I need to change my decision algorithm. The techniques help make the the doing better but they don't make it happen.
I approached one attractive girl today asking for a bus or sth. I felt fear while doing it and I did it while feeling it. Well, the thing is if fear is there I can just do it. If there was a decision to do it, nothing can stop me. Although fear is there for a reason and the approach wasn't really smooth. But the point is you can do it even if you feel fear.
Tuesday, July 11, 2006
Saturday, July 08, 2006
Reciprocate
Juggler:
"Appearing confident is not about expressing confidence. It
is about confidently expressing everything."
"Handling women is a balancing act. You can't let her show
interest without reciprocating or she will catch herself, feel
desperate and renege. Showing corresponding interest in her
locks her commitment in. Match it or lose it."
This is why cocky didn't work for women approaching me.
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I went out today to meet my friends. With the proper body language and
tonality I can be the center of attention and drive the interaction. I'm like
a talk show host. This works especially in the beginning, later I tend to
forget and just do what I enjoy most. I show no neediness in the social
situation. This works like magic. I had to regain my state when I was going
to the meeting. I wasn't feeling good then. I used the usual techniques from
my notepad. Also R1 from Gunwitch and Attention wich is the best.
Later we went to a club. I have no trouble being interested in a girl and dancing in front of them. I still am terrifyed to grab them by the hand. I will do this someday.
"Appearing confident is not about expressing confidence. It
is about confidently expressing everything."
"Handling women is a balancing act. You can't let her show
interest without reciprocating or she will catch herself, feel
desperate and renege. Showing corresponding interest in her
locks her commitment in. Match it or lose it."
This is why cocky didn't work for women approaching me.
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I went out today to meet my friends. With the proper body language and
tonality I can be the center of attention and drive the interaction. I'm like
a talk show host. This works especially in the beginning, later I tend to
forget and just do what I enjoy most. I show no neediness in the social
situation. This works like magic. I had to regain my state when I was going
to the meeting. I wasn't feeling good then. I used the usual techniques from
my notepad. Also R1 from Gunwitch and Attention wich is the best.
Later we went to a club. I have no trouble being interested in a girl and dancing in front of them. I still am terrifyed to grab them by the hand. I will do this someday.
Thursday, July 06, 2006
Attention is the only technique
I went out today with no real intention. There was an intention of doing 5 opinion approaches for Stylelife's day 5 but I couldn't make it. I expected this to happen. After a high there is a low. I felt bad today. I got OK after drinking coffee and focusing on my attention. Again I don't know what really works, the coffee or the awareness radius. Attention is all. Attention is the only technique. Imagine a 3D cursor locking onto people. That is your attention. If the cursor goes on you, you are self-conscious. I saw today that girls notice my AR. They keep passing by me and smiing if I lock onto them. OR even lock into something else. Attention is key. Attention is all there is. Attention is all I can ever do. The night before I was imagining how I can overcome fear. I came to the same conclusions as NLP methods. Basically you DO something after a series of choices. The argument with the biggest priority wins. To make the biggest priority just make the picture in your head bigger. It worked just once today. An attractive girl passed by and I stopped her to
ask for directions. The good thing about it was that I had a thought and a little fear before doing it. If I learn to manage fear I won't have to rely on my STATE and NOT THINKING to do things. One more thing to remember: Don't tell your inner CHILD what to do. I wanted to speak in a manly way to shop people and the child was terrfied and it didn't let me even walk into the shops. Just let go. Make an intention of the desired effect. Rehearse it. But don't force to do it. Just accept that you won't do it now. Just allow the CHILD to do whatever it FEELS is best.
Also: I was training card tricks today. I used Bruce Lee's technique or rather attention. It's magic.
ask for directions. The good thing about it was that I had a thought and a little fear before doing it. If I learn to manage fear I won't have to rely on my STATE and NOT THINKING to do things. One more thing to remember: Don't tell your inner CHILD what to do. I wanted to speak in a manly way to shop people and the child was terrfied and it didn't let me even walk into the shops. Just let go. Make an intention of the desired effect. Rehearse it. But don't force to do it. Just accept that you won't do it now. Just allow the CHILD to do whatever it FEELS is best.
Also: I was training card tricks today. I used Bruce Lee's technique or rather attention. It's magic.
Ball of emotion (2 days late)
Fear into charisma.
Beliefs and thoughts create energy.
We have a belief on our logical brain and then we assign a symbol of the energy to get it to the emotional brain. Then you get it into the body, then to breathing.
It's not enough to form a linguistic belief. Symbology, energy, breath.
1. Never take a woman's first response as written in stone. It's just a response of where she is at the moment.
2. Anything she gives you is just a toy for you to play with.
3. They can do whatever they want, I control where my energy goes.
Your intent must be most important. You just see intents of other people, not get into them.
Beliefs:
A. I believe I can learn everything.
B. Inside of me is the set of resources and abilities that is greater than any challenge in the external world.
C. Anything that comes up is coming to be handled, healed, learned from and released.
When you're thinking about how you fucked something up you are rehearsing the same behaviour!
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I was doing Style's telephone excercise today. I must do this more often. I can't call a girl and talk like now! First of all I must speak loudly and confidently and slowly. No matter if they hear you or not, that is all they think of you. So control the voice in a relaxed maner. Second thing: always say "I'm XXXX" in the beginning to establish some rapport. Use the vacuum. I did like Juggler, after the 3rd call, and it works great. It's so powerful and funny.
I realized today that lack of my social skills is because of fear of loss. Throughout my life I didn't accept the way I am, the way I am percieved socially so I didn't go out with the intent of learning this stuff. If I ACCEPT how I interact with people TODAY I will go out and train neverminding the awkwardness of my interactions.
Beliefs and thoughts create energy.
We have a belief on our logical brain and then we assign a symbol of the energy to get it to the emotional brain. Then you get it into the body, then to breathing.
It's not enough to form a linguistic belief. Symbology, energy, breath.
1. Never take a woman's first response as written in stone. It's just a response of where she is at the moment.
2. Anything she gives you is just a toy for you to play with.
3. They can do whatever they want, I control where my energy goes.
Your intent must be most important. You just see intents of other people, not get into them.
Beliefs:
A. I believe I can learn everything.
B. Inside of me is the set of resources and abilities that is greater than any challenge in the external world.
C. Anything that comes up is coming to be handled, healed, learned from and released.
When you're thinking about how you fucked something up you are rehearsing the same behaviour!
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I was doing Style's telephone excercise today. I must do this more often. I can't call a girl and talk like now! First of all I must speak loudly and confidently and slowly. No matter if they hear you or not, that is all they think of you. So control the voice in a relaxed maner. Second thing: always say "I'm XXXX" in the beginning to establish some rapport. Use the vacuum. I did like Juggler, after the 3rd call, and it works great. It's so powerful and funny.
I realized today that lack of my social skills is because of fear of loss. Throughout my life I didn't accept the way I am, the way I am percieved socially so I didn't go out with the intent of learning this stuff. If I ACCEPT how I interact with people TODAY I will go out and train neverminding the awkwardness of my interactions.
Wednesday, July 05, 2006
Tao
Tao of Jeet Kune Do:
"The conciousness of self is the greatest hindrance to the proper execution of all physical action."
Talking is a physical act.
"Turn into a doll made of wood; it has no ego, it thinks nothing"
If I review times when I "did" something I wasn't thinking...
"If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will discolose themselves. Moving, be like water"
If I don't contrain myself to a particular frame but be flexible, my words will flow like a river.
IT'S NOT ME THAT - DOES - STUFF!!!!!!
"The perfect way is only difficult for those who pick and choose. [...] The struggle between "for" and "against" is the mind's worst disease."
To get rid of the disease go with it. If you will think of getting rid of it you'll be thinking of the pink elephant. Keep company with it.
"In Buddhism, there is no place for using effort"
"The conciousness of self is the greatest hindrance to the proper execution of all physical action."
Talking is a physical act.
"Turn into a doll made of wood; it has no ego, it thinks nothing"
If I review times when I "did" something I wasn't thinking...
"If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will discolose themselves. Moving, be like water"
If I don't contrain myself to a particular frame but be flexible, my words will flow like a river.
IT'S NOT ME THAT - DOES - STUFF!!!!!!
"The perfect way is only difficult for those who pick and choose. [...] The struggle between "for" and "against" is the mind's worst disease."
To get rid of the disease go with it. If you will think of getting rid of it you'll be thinking of the pink elephant. Keep company with it.
"In Buddhism, there is no place for using effort"
Tuesday, July 04, 2006
Sequoia paranoia
For the last 3-4 for days I was imagining appoaching girls before bedtime.
Open IMMEDIATELY with the first person that will listen to you. Say anything! Hey, what's happening?
Thing I want to practice:
Walk up to people and make statements and then go away.
This will be a part of a two step process to eliminate fear of the first approach and entering a routine.
Barry White's basso profundo.
Use the new voice with strangers.
Insert pauses in your sentences. (1-3 pauses)
Train talking sentences! I forgot about this excercise.
I AM COMPLETE AT EVERY MOMENT OF MY LIFE.
A sequoia is always a sequoia, from a seedling to a big tower.
In the past months I was in a position of learning. Affirmations set you in the mindset of an already succesfull person. If I'm in the mindset of an unskilled person I will act like him. I feel now like a succesful person with women. All my thoughts and behaviours seem to attract women, I can sense it. The mindset of an already succesful person is the key. I can feel it now but can I step into this energy when I lack it?
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Attention.
Today I realized how it works. While practicing vocal I used attention in 3D. And I directly respond to that. Attention works in 3D. I wonder if it works in 4D?
Open IMMEDIATELY with the first person that will listen to you. Say anything! Hey, what's happening?
Thing I want to practice:
Walk up to people and make statements and then go away.
This will be a part of a two step process to eliminate fear of the first approach and entering a routine.
Barry White's basso profundo.
Use the new voice with strangers.
Insert pauses in your sentences. (1-3 pauses)
Train talking sentences! I forgot about this excercise.
I AM COMPLETE AT EVERY MOMENT OF MY LIFE.
A sequoia is always a sequoia, from a seedling to a big tower.
In the past months I was in a position of learning. Affirmations set you in the mindset of an already succesfull person. If I'm in the mindset of an unskilled person I will act like him. I feel now like a succesful person with women. All my thoughts and behaviours seem to attract women, I can sense it. The mindset of an already succesful person is the key. I can feel it now but can I step into this energy when I lack it?
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Attention.
Today I realized how it works. While practicing vocal I used attention in 3D. And I directly respond to that. Attention works in 3D. I wonder if it works in 4D?
Sunday, July 02, 2006
First... nothing?
I got my first approach in a club. I got my first number from a girl.
The thing that is really interesting is that it is nothing. It's no big deal. It's like breathing, it's just comfortable.
I was in a happy mood all day. I worked out, I went running. I trained my voice, did a lot of talking. Then when I met with my friends I was really alpha with them and I lead the whole interaction towards fun. In the club I had major fears. I had to really wait for a specific moment to go up to 2 girls and tell them a line from DYD Marie Interview. That's all I did with them. A major improvement in my game is dancing in front of girls. I still didn't grab them but I do a lot of eye contact and smiling. The chick I got the number from approached me first. I decided to drop cocky&funny for today and it worked. I was just flirty. That was our interaction. We just flirted, I didn't have any romantic interest in her. I generally told her to write down her number. She said she has a boyfriend so I told her we can hang out at some party and she gave me the number without hesitation.
My overall mindset/goal for today was dissociation. As I'm writing this I am totally disassociated. The whole night was a process towards this. Intention for mindset works. Use it.
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Talk about stuff what state you are in. It is the easiest.
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Motivation to talk comes from wanting to dominate the frame.
The best frame comes from being yourself. It is a feeling.
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Stylelife challenge task 2
a. One or two sentences describing how you believe other people currently perceive you.
Quiet. Not manly enough.
b. One or two sentences describing how you'd ideally like to be perceived by others.
Outgoing, MAN.
c. Three of your behaviors or characteristics that you would like to get rid of.
Shyness, need of approval, social fears (fear of social loss).
d. Three new behaviors or characteristics that you would like to adapt.
Talkative. Fearless. Social frame dominance.
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Alexander technique!
Head is heavy and affects back compressing.
http://www.stylelife.com/archive/2006_07_02_archive.html
Feel Style!
The thing that is really interesting is that it is nothing. It's no big deal. It's like breathing, it's just comfortable.
I was in a happy mood all day. I worked out, I went running. I trained my voice, did a lot of talking. Then when I met with my friends I was really alpha with them and I lead the whole interaction towards fun. In the club I had major fears. I had to really wait for a specific moment to go up to 2 girls and tell them a line from DYD Marie Interview. That's all I did with them. A major improvement in my game is dancing in front of girls. I still didn't grab them but I do a lot of eye contact and smiling. The chick I got the number from approached me first. I decided to drop cocky&funny for today and it worked. I was just flirty. That was our interaction. We just flirted, I didn't have any romantic interest in her. I generally told her to write down her number. She said she has a boyfriend so I told her we can hang out at some party and she gave me the number without hesitation.
My overall mindset/goal for today was dissociation. As I'm writing this I am totally disassociated. The whole night was a process towards this. Intention for mindset works. Use it.
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Talk about stuff what state you are in. It is the easiest.
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Motivation to talk comes from wanting to dominate the frame.
The best frame comes from being yourself. It is a feeling.
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Stylelife challenge task 2
a. One or two sentences describing how you believe other people currently perceive you.
Quiet. Not manly enough.
b. One or two sentences describing how you'd ideally like to be perceived by others.
Outgoing, MAN.
c. Three of your behaviors or characteristics that you would like to get rid of.
Shyness, need of approval, social fears (fear of social loss).
d. Three new behaviors or characteristics that you would like to adapt.
Talkative. Fearless. Social frame dominance.
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Alexander technique!
Head is heavy and affects back compressing.
http://www.stylelife.com/archive/2006_07_02_archive.html
Feel Style!
Friday, June 30, 2006
Like a virgin
OK where to start?
I did the opinion opener "Who lies more" for the very first time. Here's the story:
I went out of home and I felt really unmotivated, bad and a little sick. I was basically doing nothing for an hour and I decided to go for coffee. I sat at the corner of the shop. I started reading and drinking and my mood got great. There was a bunch of girls sitting a little farther and I decided that when I'm going out I will ask them for an opinion. In the meantime a group of girls sat next to me. Now for about an hour I was hesitating to start a conversation with them. I was in a great mood to run the opinion opener on them at first but then the more I waited the more nervous I got to the point I couldn't control shaking. And they finally left.
Just 2 girls were left and I just excused them to get pass. Then I cruised around a bit to warm-up. I did ask for the time a couple of times. I realized I cannot run the opinion opener. I said to myself FUCK THIS! I won't go home unless I do it. And I felt at that moment that this is the mindset that is gonna do it. Now for about 4 hours I was walking around the city trying to open with my opinion opener. I was in a really friendly mood with a perma-smile and 2 girls opened me up, but I didn't think of doing anything more (they asked for directions). I tried every single mindset and trick there is. Nothing. I finally decided to cut back a little and just ask "Who lies more" instead of running the whole routine (try something different rule). This felt a little easier but still I got tired and where feeling worse and worse. Finally after cruising the same spot for about the 5th time I spotted behind the bushes 2 girls talking. They were under 30, not my type. I realized that only after approaching them. I didn't even see them well when I decided to approach. The decision is really powerful. I approached them and spotted that they were in deep conversation but that did nothing and I opened them. I blew 500 sets before because they were talking and here I gave a shit about it. Basically my problem is not doing what I WANT. If I give a crap about what other people think or are doing at the moment I will do it constantly. I need to prioritize ME and my NEEDS. The actual experience was really... nothing. I felt good after it but it was no big deal. It felt very unnatural when I was spitting the words out, but hey this was the first time I ever did something like this in my life. This is my new path.
I did the opinion opener "Who lies more" for the very first time. Here's the story:
I went out of home and I felt really unmotivated, bad and a little sick. I was basically doing nothing for an hour and I decided to go for coffee. I sat at the corner of the shop. I started reading and drinking and my mood got great. There was a bunch of girls sitting a little farther and I decided that when I'm going out I will ask them for an opinion. In the meantime a group of girls sat next to me. Now for about an hour I was hesitating to start a conversation with them. I was in a great mood to run the opinion opener on them at first but then the more I waited the more nervous I got to the point I couldn't control shaking. And they finally left.
Just 2 girls were left and I just excused them to get pass. Then I cruised around a bit to warm-up. I did ask for the time a couple of times. I realized I cannot run the opinion opener. I said to myself FUCK THIS! I won't go home unless I do it. And I felt at that moment that this is the mindset that is gonna do it. Now for about 4 hours I was walking around the city trying to open with my opinion opener. I was in a really friendly mood with a perma-smile and 2 girls opened me up, but I didn't think of doing anything more (they asked for directions). I tried every single mindset and trick there is. Nothing. I finally decided to cut back a little and just ask "Who lies more" instead of running the whole routine (try something different rule). This felt a little easier but still I got tired and where feeling worse and worse. Finally after cruising the same spot for about the 5th time I spotted behind the bushes 2 girls talking. They were under 30, not my type. I realized that only after approaching them. I didn't even see them well when I decided to approach. The decision is really powerful. I approached them and spotted that they were in deep conversation but that did nothing and I opened them. I blew 500 sets before because they were talking and here I gave a shit about it. Basically my problem is not doing what I WANT. If I give a crap about what other people think or are doing at the moment I will do it constantly. I need to prioritize ME and my NEEDS. The actual experience was really... nothing. I felt good after it but it was no big deal. It felt very unnatural when I was spitting the words out, but hey this was the first time I ever did something like this in my life. This is my new path.
Thursday, June 29, 2006
Frame game
Manly activities:
- listening to metal
- playing metal on guitar
- reading Maddog and A. Hall stuff
- watching George Carlin, Southpark
- push-ups
- watching 80's movies and action games
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I went out today with the intention of getting to the social state. It was harder this time. About 3-4 hours it took me until I could walk up to girls and ask for the time. But it worked and I broke some comfort zones. I couldn't get horny today. I will use Stalin's method for tomorrow.
I met a friend and a an old attractive female friend today. I was amazed by my maintenance of frame. It was after geting into the state. I was really laid back and spoke only what I wanted to. Maybe maintaining a frame can be done by intention also?
I'm doing the 7x70 affirmation technique for the second day now.
Note about frames: the whole purpose of the game is holding people in your own mind frame.
Successful frame = strong beliefs + rehearsed context
YOu must FEEL superior to the person. It comes easy with low value people. It spoils automaticly with high value. But it is all in the brain. Change frame, put yourself on th highest position, build strong beliefs and you will never fall from that place.
- listening to metal
- playing metal on guitar
- reading Maddog and A. Hall stuff
- watching George Carlin, Southpark
- push-ups
- watching 80's movies and action games
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I went out today with the intention of getting to the social state. It was harder this time. About 3-4 hours it took me until I could walk up to girls and ask for the time. But it worked and I broke some comfort zones. I couldn't get horny today. I will use Stalin's method for tomorrow.
I met a friend and a an old attractive female friend today. I was amazed by my maintenance of frame. It was after geting into the state. I was really laid back and spoke only what I wanted to. Maybe maintaining a frame can be done by intention also?
I'm doing the 7x70 affirmation technique for the second day now.
Note about frames: the whole purpose of the game is holding people in your own mind frame.
Successful frame = strong beliefs + rehearsed context
YOu must FEEL superior to the person. It comes easy with low value people. It spoils automaticly with high value. But it is all in the brain. Change frame, put yourself on th highest position, build strong beliefs and you will never fall from that place.
Wednesday, June 28, 2006
Manliness
I was testing state change today. My goal is to go out and get in a state where I can approach people without effort. I did it today in 2 hours! I drank a coffee also, maybe that has a part in it. Who knows. I'll see what happens tomorrow. I also wanted to try Gunwitch, atleast at eye contact level but I wasn't horny because of masturbation the other day. I must surround myself with masculinity archetypes. Just by reading about manly men I feel testosterone pumping in my vains. I wanna be like Arnold, I am a pirate! ARG!!!
I realized today that a couple years ago I was gaming a girl using Ali G lines. I think this might be a good frame. Also it is manly.
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"Hey, real quick! What is a good place to eat around here?"
"Blah blah "
"Nice, you are my new tour guide" (knuckle to knuckle hit)
This is my new technique I will use:
http://bigsend.blogspot.com/2006_01_15_bigsend_archive.html
FRAME CONTROL
maaseiah: "Work on your imagination. When you imagine anything, always imagine it working out in the best possible way for everyone involved. (this will also eliminate stress)Do this vigilantly. Do it all the time (even when you masturbate, imagine it is sex with your ideal partner and you both are enjoying yourselves beyond words. Make sure you imagine every detail as though it were happening. Make sure that you are masturbating within the experience rather than at the picture). Work on maintaining your frame all the time. BELIEVE IT! Get better at maintaining your frame while talking to people. Get better at holding your frame while picking up girls. When you do this enough that your experience backs it up, you will not
have to think about it as much. Write down your frame. Do it from a place of appreciation for having what you want. (Ie: I am really enjoying having every woman I meet want me, It feels great to be the guy who gets all the girls, etc.) Create your frame exactly the way you want as though you already have it. Vividly picture each experience as you write it down. Do this every day. (this is not about making up stories, it is about making base beliefs. Make them basic)"
I realized today that a couple years ago I was gaming a girl using Ali G lines. I think this might be a good frame. Also it is manly.
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"Hey, real quick! What is a good place to eat around here?"
"Blah blah "
"Nice, you are my new tour guide" (knuckle to knuckle hit)
This is my new technique I will use:
http://bigsend.blogspot.com/2006_01_15_bigsend_archive.html
FRAME CONTROL
maaseiah: "Work on your imagination. When you imagine anything, always imagine it working out in the best possible way for everyone involved. (this will also eliminate stress)Do this vigilantly. Do it all the time (even when you masturbate, imagine it is sex with your ideal partner and you both are enjoying yourselves beyond words. Make sure you imagine every detail as though it were happening. Make sure that you are masturbating within the experience rather than at the picture). Work on maintaining your frame all the time. BELIEVE IT! Get better at maintaining your frame while talking to people. Get better at holding your frame while picking up girls. When you do this enough that your experience backs it up, you will not
have to think about it as much. Write down your frame. Do it from a place of appreciation for having what you want. (Ie: I am really enjoying having every woman I meet want me, It feels great to be the guy who gets all the girls, etc.) Create your frame exactly the way you want as though you already have it. Vividly picture each experience as you write it down. Do this every day. (this is not about making up stories, it is about making base beliefs. Make them basic)"
Tuesday, June 27, 2006
jodelilol
I've been doing a lot of voice excercises lately. At last I am seeing the effects of this. Now I see that voice is state + training. Your body must learn how to talk and then you enter that state.
Good mini-state to be in. Remember how you think, act when you got a good line to say. Always act like that.
How a salesman cured himself of self-consiousness:
"by remembering how he FELT, and how he ACTED when he "was going to the kitchen eat with Ma and Pa".
He would imagine or pretend.
I want to imagine my great social interaction before new ones.
Remember how you feel at home in bed.
My comment on GUNWITCH METHOD:
If there was a little bunny running around near you, would you kill it? Of course not it's a cute little bunny rabbit, let's play with it! Now suppose you are in the wilderness and you haven't ate for 10 days. Would you still play with the rabbit or would you smack his fucken head with a rock and eat the mother fucker?!?!
The same is with girls. Social conditioning makes us stop the sexual urge. We think it is wrong so we don't let our testosterone drive us. No wonder we don't fuck girls if we aren't in the state to do it. Getting horny without fear or embarassment is a big part of a DJ.
"First eye contact between you and another male should ALWAYS be broken by
him first in a social situation to indicate dominance at a primal level and keep the
guy from doing the above jokes at your expense behaviors. This also makes you
feel less like giggling at his jokes, as you feel more dominant than him."
Instead of thinking about not laughing or giggling at someones insults or stupid jokes, think about the first encounter and establish a dominant position. The frame will work for you.
Do not make jokes to people that don't know you until you gain respect. <- this is the missing link, when I was thinking about is it good to send jokes all the time at a party. Respect produces laughter.
"The hover is simply that, you hover near the person until you catch them out the
corner of your eye looking at you, THEN you reciprocate eye contact and say
hello, this much in the same way you assume a rapport or assume a sexual state
FEELS to them as if they have given YOU the vibe first.
"
I wanna train hover behaviour tommorrow.
Good mini-state to be in. Remember how you think, act when you got a good line to say. Always act like that.
How a salesman cured himself of self-consiousness:
"by remembering how he FELT, and how he ACTED when he "was going to the kitchen eat with Ma and Pa".
He would imagine or pretend.
I want to imagine my great social interaction before new ones.
Remember how you feel at home in bed.
My comment on GUNWITCH METHOD:
If there was a little bunny running around near you, would you kill it? Of course not it's a cute little bunny rabbit, let's play with it! Now suppose you are in the wilderness and you haven't ate for 10 days. Would you still play with the rabbit or would you smack his fucken head with a rock and eat the mother fucker?!?!
The same is with girls. Social conditioning makes us stop the sexual urge. We think it is wrong so we don't let our testosterone drive us. No wonder we don't fuck girls if we aren't in the state to do it. Getting horny without fear or embarassment is a big part of a DJ.
"First eye contact between you and another male should ALWAYS be broken by
him first in a social situation to indicate dominance at a primal level and keep the
guy from doing the above jokes at your expense behaviors. This also makes you
feel less like giggling at his jokes, as you feel more dominant than him."
Instead of thinking about not laughing or giggling at someones insults or stupid jokes, think about the first encounter and establish a dominant position. The frame will work for you.
Do not make jokes to people that don't know you until you gain respect. <- this is the missing link, when I was thinking about is it good to send jokes all the time at a party. Respect produces laughter.
"The hover is simply that, you hover near the person until you catch them out the
corner of your eye looking at you, THEN you reciprocate eye contact and say
hello, this much in the same way you assume a rapport or assume a sexual state
FEELS to them as if they have given YOU the vibe first.
"
I wanna train hover behaviour tommorrow.
Sunday, June 25, 2006
Be your best self
"When you think you lack words, what you really lack are ideas. Ideas come in the form of frames. When the frames are there, the words come readily."
-- George Lankoff [p23, Don't Think of An Elephant]
Stay in the set until they reject you.
Do not hold your tongue to be “polite” do not try to avoid “dominating the conversation”. Some call this loosening up, others call it “the gift of gab”.
Whatever you call it, LET WHAT IS INSIDE YOU COME OUT.
The greatest power as an influencer is to represent such an authority of speech and powerful model of how things work that it draws in the listener to your model of how things work or should work.
GUNWITCH:
"Unless she is very unaware of
the way the world works, she realizes you are making the first move because you
are the man she is the woman, this is the way shit works.
Around 5 of 10 women you approach are going to be receptive to it, no shit,
about 5 of 10. You fuck things up and you might bore them, turn them off, repulse
them, not attract them to you, not excite them etc, but that’s what the rest of this
course is for. It’s going to be maybe 1 in 10 that’s going to have some strange
reaction. Maybe the other 4 will be a bit standoffish because they aren’t attracted
much."
"Trick three: Do not masturbate at all until you have approached 25 women in all.
Another words you get NO sexual release from any outlet aside from a woman
until you have approached 25 women. If you have fear of approaching women
when you are not drunk or in a social setting you may need to do this last one
also for approaching women while sober and in non bar and club environments.
Even better once you have gotten used to not masturbating regular you can
stimulate yourself but not release first thing in the morning or at night before bed
also. This is called the “Stalin’s” trick and it works great,"
"Women who you are most attracted to are usually most attracted to you as well."
"Women who you are most attracted to are usually most attracted to you as well.
This may seem counter intuitive and I won’t get in to evolutionary psychology
here, but really the women you find absolutely “MUST HAVE” tend to wind up
seeing you as more attractive than other women also."
RELAXATION 1.
R “relaxation of mind pace and body through
familiarity with female interactions and realizing others care more what I think of
them than they even think of me”
"THE thing you must realize to overcome this in the beginning of your meeting
new women is that no one is thinking about you. Yep, they are not thinking about
you, not at all."
"Actually thinking that you need to relax your mind and body can actually cause
the opposite reaction inside your mind, so field work/ effort/ interactions are a
major key in this are to get you past this. After a bit of meeting, talking to and
especially after having gotten results with women this will be easy to do if you
simply pay attention to it and realize the above statement that others always are
trying to impress you/ “others care more what I think of them than they even think
of me”."
This is turning the world inside out. Might be good cause it uses the same neural networks but backwards.
"YOUR MISSION: Approach 25 more women while the entire time hardly thinking
anything but “all she is thinking about is what I think of her” anytime your internal
monologue turns on."
-------------------
ALL SOCIAL PROBLEMS COME FROM TRYING TO BE LIKE SOMEBODY ELSE INSTEAD OF EXPRESSING WHAT YOU ARE.
-------------------
Go to a mall, and basically ask every hot girl you see for the time..
Here's the kicker, after about an hour of this we wanted to take it to the next level..sooooo we put our watches on and continued... some girls didn't even noticed, but for the one's who did, we fed them a few rehearsed DHV stories behind the watch..
"it doesn't work but it holds sentimental value because:" examples included everything from "a gift from my ninety year old neighbor who is now passed, for always taking care of her puppy" to "received it as a reward for pulling 2 kids and a chiwawa out of a burning building a few years back" regardless, they were all bull shit stories.. but 9 times out of 10 the girl was so amazed that u could see the awestruck look on her face... most of the time we just left it at that and walked on (because we were on assignment) but twice my buddy managed to keep a conversation going and got a number (im still trying :)
-- George Lankoff [p23, Don't Think of An Elephant]
Stay in the set until they reject you.
Do not hold your tongue to be “polite” do not try to avoid “dominating the conversation”. Some call this loosening up, others call it “the gift of gab”.
Whatever you call it, LET WHAT IS INSIDE YOU COME OUT.
The greatest power as an influencer is to represent such an authority of speech and powerful model of how things work that it draws in the listener to your model of how things work or should work.
GUNWITCH:
"Unless she is very unaware of
the way the world works, she realizes you are making the first move because you
are the man she is the woman, this is the way shit works.
Around 5 of 10 women you approach are going to be receptive to it, no shit,
about 5 of 10. You fuck things up and you might bore them, turn them off, repulse
them, not attract them to you, not excite them etc, but that’s what the rest of this
course is for. It’s going to be maybe 1 in 10 that’s going to have some strange
reaction. Maybe the other 4 will be a bit standoffish because they aren’t attracted
much."
"Trick three: Do not masturbate at all until you have approached 25 women in all.
Another words you get NO sexual release from any outlet aside from a woman
until you have approached 25 women. If you have fear of approaching women
when you are not drunk or in a social setting you may need to do this last one
also for approaching women while sober and in non bar and club environments.
Even better once you have gotten used to not masturbating regular you can
stimulate yourself but not release first thing in the morning or at night before bed
also. This is called the “Stalin’s” trick and it works great,"
"Women who you are most attracted to are usually most attracted to you as well."
"Women who you are most attracted to are usually most attracted to you as well.
This may seem counter intuitive and I won’t get in to evolutionary psychology
here, but really the women you find absolutely “MUST HAVE” tend to wind up
seeing you as more attractive than other women also."
RELAXATION 1.
R “relaxation of mind pace and body through
familiarity with female interactions and realizing others care more what I think of
them than they even think of me”
"THE thing you must realize to overcome this in the beginning of your meeting
new women is that no one is thinking about you. Yep, they are not thinking about
you, not at all."
"Actually thinking that you need to relax your mind and body can actually cause
the opposite reaction inside your mind, so field work/ effort/ interactions are a
major key in this are to get you past this. After a bit of meeting, talking to and
especially after having gotten results with women this will be easy to do if you
simply pay attention to it and realize the above statement that others always are
trying to impress you/ “others care more what I think of them than they even think
of me”."
This is turning the world inside out. Might be good cause it uses the same neural networks but backwards.
"YOUR MISSION: Approach 25 more women while the entire time hardly thinking
anything but “all she is thinking about is what I think of her” anytime your internal
monologue turns on."
-------------------
ALL SOCIAL PROBLEMS COME FROM TRYING TO BE LIKE SOMEBODY ELSE INSTEAD OF EXPRESSING WHAT YOU ARE.
-------------------
Go to a mall, and basically ask every hot girl you see for the time..
Here's the kicker, after about an hour of this we wanted to take it to the next level..sooooo we put our watches on and continued... some girls didn't even noticed, but for the one's who did, we fed them a few rehearsed DHV stories behind the watch..
"it doesn't work but it holds sentimental value because:" examples included everything from "a gift from my ninety year old neighbor who is now passed, for always taking care of her puppy" to "received it as a reward for pulling 2 kids and a chiwawa out of a burning building a few years back" regardless, they were all bull shit stories.. but 9 times out of 10 the girl was so amazed that u could see the awestruck look on her face... most of the time we just left it at that and walked on (because we were on assignment) but twice my buddy managed to keep a conversation going and got a number (im still trying :)
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