From shy guy to don juan. Daily experiences.
"The secret of happiness is freedom. And the secret of freedom is courage."
Friday, January 04, 2008
Happy new years
3 days before new years there was a party. There was a girl I liked and I hesitated for 0.1 seconds. It's like stupid to do that when I like a girl now. There seems to be a cloud that blocks me from more like groups but it isnt anything like years ago. I was talking and having fun all the time. I regretted not going after the girl. There are still some issues.
For the next days I was meditating, releasing and forgiving on the subjec of getting what I want. It did a lot.I was hurt because I did not achieve my goal. I set a yearly goal of having sex and this was the last chance. I felt bad because I didnt achieve. During these days I realized I dont need to feel sorry about it. It is a survival mechanism, I dont actually need to feel bad about anything!!!
On New Years I went to a party. I was nervous at first! It felt wierd, maybe because of my outfit. So instead of contemplating on it I headed immediately to the bar and started drinking and chatting and being authorative with my friends. Action helped! In minutes I approached 2 most attractive girls and it was a blast. I'm really good at this now. I did tons of stuff out of my comfort zone. Too many to write about and I dont ever think about them consciously, it just happens. I changed. I am... me.Still I feel bad cause I didnt go after what I wanted. I blame it on a girl that was into me and didnt let the others come in the way. But thats bollocks. It still isnt concrete what I want.
What the fuck do I want from girls!?!?!
I know deeply what I want. Do I want sex? The thing is I wasnt really horny in those days. Not like a coule weeks ago, when I was only thinking about it. Now it wasnt there.
If it isnt there it isnt there.
So I actually didnt want anything from them, except for feeling their energy and feeling great and making them feel great about the attrction process. All fun.
But still there is regret that I didnt go after this one girl hat I really liked.I shoulda, comes to my mind all the time. What shoulda?
If I throw away the fear, it boils down to this:tell the girl I didnt want piss off definitely and go for the one I wanted.
I wanted to have the cake and eat it too. In fear of losing both I dont have none right now.
Be prepared to lose it. That's the only way to get anything in life. I didnt think like that back then, I was thinking wrong.If something seems easy you are thinking wrong about it.
Overall. This year I have become somebody else, finally. This blog is a testament to how I changed. Afterall it was possible.
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I had the most amazing lucid dream. I was meditating on the third eye, second time in the last days.I fell asleep and I had a dream in which I spotted 2 girls and immediately went to them and talked. And they were high class, don't know why. I did it! According to my theory this is CHANGE.Then the lucid part began it was as real as it can be. Everything I saw was real and felt, food, textures - real.So I decided to go fly and I did. Amazing. Then I went to a mirror to try to see who am I. And I was me but my eyes were blue. I began to think who am I if not the person sleeping in my bed?And 2 other people appeared, maybe a third ghost one behind me. One of the people one in a magic hat, I remember him, or rather being him?
Friday, December 21, 2007
I talk like an enlightened person
Let's make something definite. If you have to consciously remind yourself that you
love yourself, you're not there. It should happen by itself.
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I realized today that I am in fact creating the reality I am in. I am not the
consciosness.I am the not-conscious. That which cannot be spoken. It is accessed easiest by
feeling and indications.Practical part: Whatever is happening right now, whatever you are thinking about or doing it is a
manifestation of what you have wanted to create earlier. So to do something or
change your thinking, thik about the future, even in 10 seconds, what you want it
to be like. Imagine clearly pictures of what you want to happen, to do, to think.
Do this from a point of empty mindedness.
If you are blocked by a NO. Like the default no. Don't try to do it or overcome
it. Face the no directly and it will change.
Awareness is change.
Thursday, December 13, 2007
Vesper
I didn't think I would it would happen, but I met a girl that looks exactly like Eva Green today. She was with some kind of douche though. It hurts cause we had fun and she was obviously into me. Wow what a beautiful creature. I would tell her that immediately if we had 1 chance to be alone for a second. I would show her my interest at once.
If there is something there is something happening. If there is nothing there to feel nothing will happen. All you can do will be manufactured and feel bad. If there is something (both party attraction) it is pleasant for both. This is the secret of the Tao.
I have changed completely. I am a different person, the old self wouldn't do the things I did and thought and felt today.
Thursday, December 06, 2007
Work on working yourself
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Be real.
Be 100% or nothing - what if? Heart.
I am here to provide entertainment!
You have to pump up yourself first.
It won't come by itself.
DO stuff to entertain yourself first.
Keep allowing the energy to flow into you.
Work on working yourself.
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If you try to apply a frame during interaction it will backfire. It's a self-hypnosis thing. You change that by doing. When you notice you're trying to do something mentally in your head stop that and sit back and do something else. She should come bavk to you when she sees you have power.
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Wednesday, December 05, 2007
Spells
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Broke at least two important (not anymore) spells in my mind today when out. It
directly changed behaviour. My thinking twisted to me being the stimulus, whereas
I always was seeking a reaction. Felt horny as fuck today too.
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Tucker Max: http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/entries/a_brief_introduction_to_writing.phtml"1. Be emotionally honest: Even stupid people can usually see through bullshit,
and writing is no different. When you try and make yourself seem something that
you aren't people will see it eventually, even in your writing. I often find
myself at places thinking, "What should I put now?" and the answer to that is
ALWAYS, "The complete truth, no matter how stupid or awful or cynical (or cool or
awesome) it makes me look." For me, using the stark truth of my mind and my life
works on many levels. It shocks the reader, because very seldom do people tell the
truth, it endears the reader to me, because it gives them the sense they are in my
head, it can repel the reader because they don't like what they see, but
ultimately it makes the reader keep reading, because there is nothing more
enthralling than true emotional honesty. Everyone at their core is a voyeur of
some sort--when you open up and let people in, they will stop and look."
"To me this story displays some of the most common flaws of new writers:
1. Terribly overwritten2. Too much explaining, not enough showing3. Talks down to the reader4. Written in a style the author thinks he "supposed" to write in, not in his real voice"
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
Simplaza
Men and women want sex the same amount. It's that men think to pursue the sex, and
women think to be pursued. But the sex is always there.
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I'm watching Marlond Brando lately and really focusing on the POTENTIAL.
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I'm reading my posts from a year ago.
I decided then to go indirect, to control people. Now I see it was insecurity.
When I lost that I became honest, like now.
"To do this succesfully you must find a reason to make eye contact besides making
eye contact! Don't ever think about making eye contact! So how?
What you do is get yourself into the state of... WONDER. This is the state that
you were in as a child. Before you got any concepts in your head. Before there was
a spearation between you and other people. Before you knew that eyes look at you.
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That is exactly, the POTENTIAL.
Stanislavsky question: “What would I do if I were…”
"You don't have direct control over your state but you have control over yourself!!!"
Sunday, November 25, 2007
You aren't your khaki
If you know something intelectually but are not feeling, you are still unsure of, even though you "know" it.
The after emotion after releasing is still it. It needs to feel good and energy refreshed if it went well.
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Just know that she has already made up her mind.
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Once the body has decided to approach then YOU must do it. This is where you must stop all thinking because any more thoughts are just coming closer to failure. Just do it. You know how.
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TYLER:
"Who are you??
The answer isn't found in what you DO.
You aren't your job. You aren't the contents of your wallet. You aren't your fucking khakis.
The point is that you have a dynamic and uncategorizable nature and relationship with the world.
Anything is possible. You are infinite and unlimited in potentiality.
An authentic relationship to your existence is one that is "grounded and humble and at ease with the unknown".
That's where REAL and DEEP confidence arises from."
Meditate on. This is true power.
The bad days and also the second day syndrome come from focusing on the wrong thing. They come from focusing on what WAS, on the BELIEFS that had formed previously and on EXPECTATION. Stop them immeditaly and remember what was prior to a great day.
It was probably focusing on this unlimited force and POTENTIAL right in front of you.
FOCUS ON THE POTENTIAL.
Mode ONE:
"Your level of self-confidence, and your ego, are not the same thing. Self-confidence has to do with your desire and ability to take action towards the achievement of a desired goal or objective. Your ego centers on how you perceive yourself, and how you believe you’re being perceived by others."
Differentiate yourself from the compliments and criticisms, you are just the POTENTIAL, nothing else. In that way you always are the same.
Mode ONE:
"Two of the most effective psychological tools that people use in order to manipulate others are compliments and criticisms. More specifically, they use insincere flattery and subjective criticisms."
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You can't change an attitude by forcing and remembering the frame. The frame comes from a belief and understanding. What does the person know and believe in, what does he feel?
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Talk to the person, not to the programming. Notice that it is a social bullshit layer. And you can cut through it, and you are actually doing good to the person.
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Friday, November 16, 2007
You control it differently than what you believe
Mode One:
"“That is how I’ve always wanted a man … at least, one who I’m physically attracted to … to talk to me. But realistically, I would never expect most men to have the guts to … at least, not in their very first conversation with me…”"
"Jack literally has no fear whatsoever of opinionated insults or subjective criticisms directed at him by women. I mean, absolutely none. He has no fear of being rejected by women. I mean, absolutely none. He never attempts to lie to women in order to seduce them, and he never attempts to engage in “manipulative head games” in order to persuade the women into having sex with him. He is just very bold, self-confident, upfront and unapologetically straightforward, and he never behaves in an apologetic and/or defensive manner in response to harsh criticisms and insults of his behavior, or his raunchy, provocative manner of verbally expressing his sexual desires, interests, and intentions to women."
"Talk Dirty To Me, Part II
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I figured out how to wake up.It happened in a dream. I became lucid and was thinking if this was a dream or not. All evidence showed that it is reality. So I accepted it (although it was completebullshit as I see it now). I started to piss. It didnt go out so I wanted to really piss, really do it. That's when the dream switched to me holding a banana or something. I was conscious of this switch and rewinded and held to it. So to wake up dont seek for evidence that it is not a dream. Your mind will tell you it is. Do something that is out of the reality. When it can't happen that is when the reality will start changing to make that thing seem that it is doing. Notice that switch and you'll fly above it.
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There is no other option. Courage.
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The problem is - I am seeking from outside validation and guidance what to do/act/behave. It must come from me. Only from my core. Once that happens all seeking for pick up knowledge will drop.
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Start eye contact. Focus only on that, the rest is distractions. All flows from catching eye contact with a person.
Friday, November 09, 2007
the Sweet Spot
Something mind raping was happening last time I went for a walk in the city. EVERY woman could not control looking at me and being attracted. I dont think I looked that good, I did not focus on my BL or anything. What I did was focusing on the Pull in front of me. Asking what it wants. Feeling the heart. Being a follower of it. It is an animal-like state.
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I think I got it?
There are 3 modes of focus.
- Front of yourself - "the sweet spot" - this is following your wanting
- Center - "the I am" - this is where you know your centre or core of your being, who you are
- Back - "the Reciever" - this changes your BL to recieve from other people what they can give you
1 mode of laziness - or no focus. You just consider everything unimportant.
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Shyness- why in the hell would you even consider that feeling? Just know that it fucks you up and let it pass. If needed stop for a moment and wait for it to go.
AT EVERY MOMENT YOU HAVE THE POWER TO NOT CONSIDER ANY FEELING OR REASON YOUR MIND COMES UP WITH.
Just as you have the power to not follow your wanting, you can choose not to follow a mind obstacle. It's important to learn different emotions. For example nervousness in the stomach is just an expectation of something big coming. But a really bad feeling there might be a sign that something is terribly wrong.
Friday, November 02, 2007
It's just not an option
Look into the left eye of the person. Look at the I Am.
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Every waking moment of your life move towards the pleasure and release any feeling obstacles that prevent you from reaching it.
In 3 years I want to have the social life of a rock-star. In the meantime I have to prepare myself internally so that when it happens I don't pass on opportunities. I am OK with that happening at that age.
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To PUA's: how did YOU decide to approach no matter what?
Once the need to get laid overpowers the fear of the risk of rejection you have to approach.
one day youll snap and approach the next attractive girl youll see
I got to a point where I was real pissed off and thinking about this.
Things changed for me after a public relations job I had one summer at a super popular beach restaraunt. Now when I sarge a random chick, I just choose to click into this P.R. mentality.
Another thing that really clicked for me is embracing the perspective that "I'm everyone." It took all the fear out of talking to people.It comes down to just dropping your mind, and finding a good perspective that you'll be able to enjoy the experience with.
Initially it came from a sense of the absolute need in my miind to turn my life around as far as women go.
Ask yourself next time....."What's going to happen if you DON'T speak with her?".
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Stop over-analyzing and take it as if its a huge game
I approach because I know that if I don't approach, than I will feel like a pvssy and regret it later on in life.
Tuesday, October 30, 2007
All of it
This was either a prediction or this was evidence for my theory that I've written below. If it didnt happen in the dream it didnt happen in real life.
If it is possible in the dream, it will become real.
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She wants to be seduced. Once she decides she wants you, she is waiting for you to induce the emotions in her.
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Focus on the I Am. That is also the destination of your thinking about others. EVERYONE HAS A SOUL SPEAK TO IT. Only think about that, be lazy and enjoy the I am of others.
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Work on chakras it's the only thing htere is. All thoughts arre mad of the same thing. Chakras are it. That's the only thing you should do. If you dont feel like doing it you wont do it.
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Every moment of our life we are being trapped by the mind. When we lose focus and awareness we are living a dream. Just like in a dream we are uncoscnious most of the time in our "waking" life. The key is to be aware all the time. This is why highly meditative people dont have dreams. They cant because they never lose focus of their real self and reality.
Monday, October 22, 2007
Simulation
It's as if attractiveness can be boiled down to not caring what others think and what you say do. That's all about it. Love who you are and say.
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Some amazing dreams coming to me in the past 2 days. Started with Marlon Brando saying to me that all your experience and thought comes from the knowledge you have, nothing is as it is, it is all knowledge manifesting.
Then I was semi-lucid. The state where I am conscious enough to know that I'm conscious so I can dream or imagine within the dream. So I figured out how, basically how the mind model should look like. What should be happening inside of you.
It's called the self-releasing & fighting consciousness. Everything that comes up to you, you release as unimportant. Another name for this is "The Lazy Mind". There is just no importance to anything. But you also recognize fear based thought and track them down to the feeling. This is where you do the fighting. You decide not to bend over the fear but fight by whatever means. Usually it means feeling it even more or using Sedona for example.
Now the important thing that came in the dream. If you want to do a courage, something out of your comfort zone you must test it first in your mind. This comes from the understanding that it is not YOU that does stuff! So this is a fault proof method to check yourself if you'll do it. If not you work on it more. The key is to simulate the interaction in your head, but there must be no conscious effort in the imagining except for feeling the feelings and fighting them. This is absolutely key. The thoughts must just come to you like in a dream. This is probably best done in theta state or hypnosis or during trance. Because then the visions are dreamlike.