From shy guy to don juan. Daily experiences.
"The secret of happiness is freedom. And the secret of freedom is courage."

Saturday, July 15, 2006

Don't try

DON'T TRY TO DO IT, JUST DO IT.

The greatest secret of life is, in order to get something you can't need to have it.


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I just did a thing that I always wanted to do but didn't. I won't write what it was... I'm excited about this, here is the report. We'll see if this works for different parts of my life.

HOW TO DO A THING YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO BUT JUST COULDN'T

First curiosity and anticipation is needed. Motivate yourself to try this out. Decide that you want to see if this method will work out. Analyze yourself through the whole process. You may not even want to do it at the moment you thought you would want to do it. You may not even believe that you will do it. Once the moment comes to do it, your state changes. That is why you have always failed to do it. There is a dissasociation between states, the state of "I want do this" and the state "Here it is let's do it". When the other state comes you usually fail, but here is how to not fail:
Think about doing it. Now you will start a decision process and you will imagine doing it, feeling really unpleasant about it, analyzing cons and pros. At this moment consciously stop yourself and realize you won't do this if you continue imagining. Start being the body. Once you identify with the process you are going to just do it by observing yourself doing it. That's it. Focus your attention on identifying with the process instead of trying and deciding. Learn to notice the difference.
The most important thing here is you don't use any of the arguments of the first state. You completely forget about it. You are in a new state and you must deal with it only through different tools. No previous motivators and arguments will work. Through the whole process you remember just to do it, focus just on the doing part not any imagining or decision part. Once you are in the second state do it without any trying. Identify with the process, not with the needs.